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A woman emailed me to tell me my husband was cheating...

My gut is in knots right now...have been working on healing our marriage after my husband cheated. He has been pretty good about calling me from work(land line) and letting me know if he is working late...calling to let me know that he is on his way home...etc...we still have our moments, but we are still working. Here is why my gut is in knots...I received an email at work from a woman who says that my husband is seeing one of her girlfriends...with information and a link to this website. I do not know if it is real or not...I can't say that I have known where my husband has been every second of the day because my job keeps me in doors and away from communication from 7:00 - about 5:00 M-F...his job allows him more freedom (which is how he pulled off the cheating the first time). I need to question him about it, but should I assume that the email is real or an attempt to get me to buy some type of service (Private investigator, lawyer...)? I do not know what to do...he is at the gym right now and will be home in a little while....my gut feels the same as when his fling called me to tell me about the two of them....I want to vomit.  Is this real?  Should I flip out right now?  Should I contact my lawyer to end the marriage because he can't seem to stay home?  I think I just threw up....I hate this feeling.
by JHL   24 Posts
Posted on 10/31/2008 6:00 PM
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soooooooooo, what's your plan?
by spaznskitz   7745 Posts
Posted on 11/5/2008 8:01 PM
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Here's an update....my husband was out on a date with another woman...the same woman that he was having an affair with in the spring...the same woman he said he broke things off with.  I received a few more emails from this other woman...she was not able to give specifics, just that it was dinner and what day it was.  I brought this information to my husband and although he initially denied it (with curse words attached-which was a flag for me)...he eventually did admit to me that he had seen this woman again....get this...he told me via text...gotta love technology.
by JHL   24 Posts
Posted on 11/5/2008 7:56 PM
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Here's an update....my husband was out on a date with another woman...the same woman that he was having an affair with in the spring...the same woman he said he broke things off with.  I received a few more emails from this other woman...she was not able to give specifics, just that it was dinner and what day it was.  I brought this information to my husband and although he initially denied it (with curse words attached-which was a flag for me)...he eventually did admit to me that he had seen this woman again....get this...he told me via text...gotta love technology.
by JHL   24 Posts
Posted on 11/5/2008 7:56 PM
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Ok, so your probable like me, you need proof so start some investigating work to get what it is you need to help you decide what you want to do.  I just went through the exact thing that your going through and it sucks. I needed proof though.  Now I know and I don't have to second guess anything.  Good Luck you will know what to do and don't forget it many seem hard and painful now, but you will find a guy that will be faithful and you wont have to go through this shit again......
by ikey   130 Posts
Posted on 11/3/2008 9:32 AM
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by lisa5   19 Posts
Posted on 11/1/2008 3:11 PM
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Why do you doubt your husband? You should follow your gut. It sounds like you have a reason to believe the e-mail. Are things not good in your relationship? Maybe he is cheating and it is actually one of your friends that saw him. What does your friends and family think about this issue? Our gut is usally right and if he cheated before why not again?
I'd follow my gut but my friend just caught her hubby cheating and it bothers me to see this seems to happen all the time. If you even doubt him then you know you don't trust him. Time to move on.Life is too short to live with this bad feeling everyday.
by lizzi08   27 Posts
Posted on 11/1/2008 11:59 AM
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Ummm..."with information"; what information? Anything verifiable? If not, asking for more, as was suggested by lenn, sounds like a good move.

"...link to this website." What website? D360? Anything specific on the page the link opened? Or just an introductory page?

I know most everyone's saying your "gut feel" is probably correct. And I'll agree as I tend to let my "gut" run my life. But I've also run into times where it wasn't so correct. And those times, in retrospect, were when I was being given mis-information.

If your "gut" was telling you something was up before this e-mail showed up, it's probably right. And don't bother to read the rest of this. But from your post, I get the feeling that's not the case.

Instead, it reads like this e-mail, and only this e-mail, was the trigger. I think it's natural, after what's happened, to instantly suspect the worst when any evidence presents itself. But this sounds more like innuendo than evidence.

I therefore suggest, as lenn did, that you try to get to the bottom of this e-mail without confronting your husband. It might be true, but it might be as lame as someone's sick idea of a "joke".

Take care. You're on a rough road, and hopefully is only a simple, easily repaired, flat tire.
by jhs   555 Posts
Posted on 11/1/2008 12:35 AM
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wow, i am really sorry too. i hope its not true for your sake, but you know what they say, if you have a bad feeling then it is usually right. like everyone else said check it out first, then confront him
by cherbear   5182 Posts
Posted on 10/31/2008 10:25 PM
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HOly man that is the pits... My heart would take a nose dive and then some receiving an email like that.
I am so sorry - I have to learn not to spill the beans and not be so straightforward but Herelego probably has a great idea, don't let him know right and do a little witch hunting of your own.
Any person with a heart and mind would be at the least skeptical including a little paranoid. Especially if he cheated before.
Talk to a pro about this. You have an email with a date so that's a great log/journal beginning.
Good luck and I am so sorry. Is it better to find out then not know. I would want to be told by someone, even if it is an email.
Go with your gut - the gut usually knows...
by lgoodgal   1036 Posts
Posted on 10/31/2008 10:09 PM
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First, let me say I hope it isn't true.

Next, I'd say listen to your gut.  If you think he really is cheating, don't spill the beans that you received the email.  Sit on it and do your homework.

It's better to know than wonder.  At least it was for me.  Good luck to you.
by HereIgo   756 Posts
Posted on 10/31/2008 9:51 PM
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So, what if the woman who eMailed you is actually the one he's cheating with, and she's trying to tell you to prepare for divorce 'cause she's going to take him from you...?

A strange thought, I know, but based on what you said it sounds a little odd, doesn't it?

And, hey, just 'cause I'm paranoid doesn't mean that they're not out to get me!
:-)
by Natalie   729 Posts
Posted on 10/31/2008 8:28 PM
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The e-mail sounds a bit odd to me.  I mean, did she give you any information at all besides the link to a website?  If she can't provide any personal information--girlfriend's name, where she works, how they've been cheating, etc.--then I'd be suspicious of the e-mail.

I'd suggest e-mailing the woman back with a request for a little more information.  If it's true and she's e-mailing you for your own good, then she won't mind saying a little more.  If it's not and she's pushing something, then she'll get indignant.
by lenn   2653 Posts
Posted on 10/31/2008 6:24 PM
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