Yeah, I gotta agree with everybody here. I have a dark sense of humor, and I have joked about death, but it's more the light passing comment, and I let it go. It sounds like your husband dwells on it, this is the symptom of something deeper. It's hard for me to really say, because it depends on context. Also, does he know that you find this kind of talk disturbing? Try making sure he knows, If he knows and it still continues, then he may be doing it TO disturb you. It's obvious it's making your life hell, and that's not right, you need to make this right by either making it right or getting away, because this sounds like emotional abuse. Keep us posted, I'll be praying for you.

This is not normal. Please go and talk to a professional to seek help from this situation.

I’m very concerned for your safety. Making threats is not a normal part of a relationship. I strongly suggest that you call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) today. You can also find quite a bit of information at the site www.ndvh.org, but please make sure you are using safe computer habits. The NDVH have some suggestions on abuse and computer safety. Computer use can be monitored and it is impossible to completely clear your viewing history. If you are afraid your internet and/or computer usage might be monitored, of if you would like tips on how to use your computer safely, please, call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). The NDVH Hotline advocates provide support and assistance to anyone involved in a domestic violence situation, and all calls are confidential. You can call them 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

Wondering if you are being abused? The NDVH has a list of questions. Does your partner: • Embarrass you with put-downs? • Look at you or act in ways that scare you? • Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go? • Stop you from seeing your friends or family members? • Take your money or make you ask for money or refuse to give you money? • Make all of the decisions? • Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children? • Prevent you from working or attending school? • Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it? • Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets? • Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons? • Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you? • Force you to try and drop charges? • Threaten to commit suicide? • Threaten to kill you? If you answered 'yes' to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline

What is abuse? One out of every four American women will experience violence by an intimate partner sometime during her lifetime, according to a 1999 study by the National Institute of Justice and Centers for Disease Control. Of those victimized by an intimate partner, 85 percent are women and 15 percent are men. That means that women are five to eight times more likely than men to be victimized, according the U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics Factbook. And only about 1 in five of domestic violence victims who are injured in an attack will get medical help. The National Domestic Violence Hotline defines abuse as: • Calling bad names or putting someone down • Shouting and cursing • Hitting, slapping and/or pushing • Making threats of any kind • Jealousy and suspicion • Keeping someone away from family and friends - isolation • Throwing things around the house If you are a victim of domestic violence, please call: National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233

i am no expert, but this sounds pretty serious. i would strongly suggest you visit this website http://www.ndvh.org/ and talk to somebody about your situation.