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MY STBX HAS BEEN TALKING TO A 16 YEAR OLD GIRL

I found out that the girl from the cell phone bill is only a sophmore this year in high school! My husband had been talking to her late at night while I he was in the bed and I was on the couch. At first he denied that I had heard him talking to anyone on the phone one night when I opened the door and asked him. Then, I discovered pictures of him and another girl, both mostly if not all nude, on a hotel bed on his myspace page only days after he left. When I confronted him about the pictures and talking on the cell phone in the bed, he admitted it. He only admitted to it being her, not the 15-16 year old though. Looking back at the cell phone records, I noticed that her number was on there early in the morning (before she left for school, and while he was at work), and late at night. 

I am so disgusted, more than ever before. I suspect that my husband has a sexual addiction beyond his addiction to pornography. This isn't the first time that he has talked to an under age girl. Only this time, I recently had a couple of people tell me they had seen my husband out with another girl at the bowling lanes with a couple other people. I don't have proof that they have ever been physically intimate, but I suspect they have. He had been spending  a lot of time at the house of the other friends who were with him at the bowling lanes. I just didn't think that they would be stupid enough to to knowingly let this go on.

by ncdivorcenovice   42 Posts
Posted on 9/29/2008 1:45 PM

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Go to the authorities! This is wrong! I assume your Husband is over 21 right? You can do it anonymously. Hell I'll do it - just send me the info.
by Igetthecat   5 Posts
Posted on 10/20/2008 2:48 PM
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Thanks guys! I appreciate your responses. I have been thinking about this girl for several days-since I found out. Unfortunately, I don't think her parents would really get very excited about this. From what I have heard, they are a little "back woods" and she is a little wild. I do feel very much obligated to do something about this. As a result, I contacted a PI today, and he is going to retrieve her DMV records in order to get her date of birth to confirm her age. It will be a few days since it is the end of the month and the DMV is updating it's records.

I don't want to cause trouble for him so much as this isn't about him any longer. It's about this girl and the other girls that he is sure to continue doing this to.

It wasn't clear in my post, but the girl in the pictures on his myspace is another girl and to my knowledge she is legal. God, I hope so anyway.

My STBX and I used to watch "To Catch a Predator" together. The guys on that show deserved to prosecuted and do time, but I used to complain that they were too rough when they forced the guys on the ground when they came out with their hands up. He would say that they deserved it. What a sick, sick person he is.

Thanks for letting me vent my thoughts. I don't know that anyone can imagine what I have been going through. Furthermore, I hope no one has their own experience to try to imagine! I have felt stupid that I married someone like him already. But now I just feel dirty and gross.
by ncdivorcenovice   42 Posts
Posted on 9/29/2008 11:08 PM
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I would call her parents,send them a letter with a picture,her farther catchs wind of this I would not want to be in yous x`s shoes.
by steveo   218 Posts
Posted on 9/29/2008 4:48 PM
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creepy.  16? 
Call her parents if you can - anonymously if possible - and say you believe the daughter is seeing a (still) married man.
that would get some attention, i suspect!
by jackson   723 Posts
Posted on 9/29/2008 3:06 PM
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I agree with paula on this some needs to tell her parents. What about taking the information Child Services?  In my opinion you are in a predicament to protect that child.
by bleedinglovepain   760 Posts
Posted on 9/29/2008 2:42 PM
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that's horrible and shocking.  can you find out who this girl is?  someone needs to know this information. her parents, the police.
by paula1   12662 Posts
Posted on 9/29/2008 2:35 PM
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