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How do I make sure I get what I'm due??? I'm really scared now. I have submitted my income and expense and asset and liability papers, but I'm really scared that I've forgotten things that will add up to a lot. I can't get into the house, though I've asked my lawyer to arrange for me to be escorted to the home to do an inventory, and I don't want to just go on my own because I'm trying to do everything legally and by the book to avoid any problems. Question 1: Is there any way I can get a court order BEFORE we settle on property so I can be sure I have all of my property on my asset list? Next, Last August (2007) I found documents showing the my stbx had transferred over $50k in stocks over to a different account....I don't know where. At the same time, he took ME off as his beneficiary and put his two kids ON at 50/50. Isn't that illegal?? Question 2: How can I be certain that EVERYTHING under his name is reported in the assets report? Finally, I've recently obtained some documentation showing he got a storage unit, about the same time that he transferred over all the funds, and I have no clue what's in there. Question 3: Is there any way I can get a court order to have the storage unit opened and see what's in it, to see if it's joint property and such? I'm worried that he's hiding assets, as you can see he is a very greedy person and not "fair" at all. I would like to get this court order BEFORE he knows I'm aware of the storage unit otherwise he may move the property. Lastly, my ex is living inthe house, and has been for the past 20 months, while I live in a little rental house. He doesn't respond to the papers sent to him by his lawyer when my lawyer sends a request to him. He just ignores it. He's already gone into default twice. But in the mean time, my ex is sitting in our big beautiful house that attracts these married women and the property value is declining daily. I'm pretty sure thats why he continued to lead me on about wanting to work on the marriage until now, he finally has this little girlfriend so he's been too busy to worry about ME! LOL! I'm worried that the house isn't going to be worth much and 1/2 the equity would be almost nothing. I put $60k of my own money into the house because his house hadn't yet sold. Then, when he got the money from his house selling, he put it in a separate account and left it there to "build a garage" which never happened. He finally took part of the "garage money" and paid off the 2nd loan on the house which was 5% I think. I do NOT want to just let him HAVE the house AND all the money I put into it....if that's going to happen then I want to just SELL the house and split the remaining money. Why should HE have the house and not me especially when I put that much into it. Question 4: Is it possible to NOT reach an agreement and just tell the judge I wanna sell everything??? I mean, if I'm gonna lose all my money why shouldn't HE too?!?!WHAT DO I DO??? I NEED HELP!!!
Question 1 - you can always revise your asset list. Nothing is final until the last papers are signed - if you come up with other things, it is fine to add them....so don't stress on that.
Question 1b- he can choose whomever he wants as his beneficiary - it doesn't have to be you just because you are his wife. You can contest it if anything happens to him while you are still married. Esp if the stocks were purchased prior to your marriage. If they were purchased while married - it's a marital asset and regardless of who is beneficiary, you still get a share.
Question 2 - Private investigatorQuestion 3 - No, but you request a content list in discovery, listing it as a marital asset because it was purchased with marital funds - Ill hazard a bet if the GF is living with him it is all HER things. Question 4 - sure you can put it in the hands of the judge - doesn't mean they will order everything sold though.
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