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Why want she answer my calls or let me see my son!!!

I have been married to this woman for 2 years and she is an officer at a Ga Prison. She has always been a controlling warrden type and I could not take it, but Her son max was 6 months old by her ex husband who was mexician. I separated with her after a year and she begged me to come back for maxs sake so I did. I found out after I came back that she was not only pregnant with my baby but had an abortion when I was gone because she said she could not take care of another baby if I did not come back, and sleep with an old boyfriend because she said he took her riding on his motorcycle and gave her compaionship.. I had to see 2 counsolers to work through it to forgive her but I somehow did. She changed for a while now 2 years in she has started the same thing again and I left. Now she has 3 guys helping her move from our house and one is all over her, she will not answer my calls or let me see my step son, who only nows me as daddy and he does not understand, just crys for me and she has the guy put him in the car and drive off with me there crying and him screaming for daddy.. I am a wreck and just want to dye... I need my baby boy we are so close and I know even legally I have no rights and may never see him again. God I miss him help me please..
by cshawn73   3 Posts
Posted on 7/28/2008 9:27 PM
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I am so sorry that this happened to you.  You deserve so much better.  Keep in mind that hurting people hurt people.  Your ex must be hurting in so many ways to have hurt you this deeply... and to have hurt her son who is your son in every way that counts, so deeply.  She doesn't know what she's done and she probably won't feel the impact of it for a long time to come.  The pain is there, yes, but there's a lesson in every situation; everything happens for a reason.  Switch from a place of pain to a place of power by looking for the lessons in this experience.  You got the chance to father and love and incredible little boy.  You learned what you DON'T want in a relationship.  You learned how to forgive so completely.  You learned that you deserve better than this.  You learned that love is meant to be given always.  You know now how intensely you can love and now you are free to give that love to someone who deserves it and can reciprocate it.  What an amazing lesson to learn now.  The next woman who enters your life will be the right one because you won't accept anything less and you couldn't have gotten there if you didn't go here first.  Find the gift in it, even if it seems like there is none, there always is.

I wish you all the best!

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by KV   428 Posts
Posted on 8/15/2008 12:29 PM
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it's called the law of estoppel - it may or may not apply, you will need to see an attorney to seif you fit into the parameters set up for your state to file  under it.
by spaznskitz   7745 Posts
Posted on 7/31/2008 2:23 AM
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Thank you for the advice. I wish I could say it is getting easier, but with each day the pain grows, and everything reminds me of him. I have to get this off mind somehow or I will go completly insane.
by cshawn73   3 Posts
Posted on 7/29/2008 11:28 PM
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I'm so sorry dude, I lost a step daughter the same way. I raised her for 6 years and her mom started sleeping with everyone in town. I wish I could tell you it worked out for me, it didn't! I loved her like my own and I said good bye to her on a rainy day and never saw her again! I still think about her almost every day and it has been almost 16 years!

I have been told there is a law for guys like us, if you have help raise a step child that will grant you visitation. I don't know the name of it, or if it applies in your state, but it may be worth you asking a lawyer in your area.

Please don't let this sour you to finding someone new and having a son of your own. I have 3 now and I love them very much, and no one will ever take them away from! Find someone that loves you and is stable. Hang in there and keep talking to people, you are not the only one that has gone through this, you will survive!!

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by Gorf   162 Posts
Posted on 7/29/2008 2:30 PM
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