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The loneliness is overwhelming tonight

First off I have to apologize to so many folks who have it so much worse than me. This is going to sound trivial but I'm so upset tonight that I don't know what I am going to do.

The loneliness has caught up with me and I'm overwhelmed. The thought of sleeping in this makeshift bed by myself again sends my stomach into flip flops. I don't know how much more I can take. I'm so scared that I will never have a lovely lady next to me ever again. I try to stay busy and not think about it but the past 2 days have been awful. I hate sleeping alone! I hate this damn bed!
I'm scared and lonely tonight. How am I going to make it through the night?

by RichBrewer   214 Posts
Posted on 7/17/2008 11:14 PM

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Rich, do you like to watch movies? When I feel really bad, I could not do much, not even reading. I simply could not focus. But watching one of my favorite movies will occupy my mind. One afternoon, I watched "Moonstruck" 3 times in a row. You need to find something to keep yourself busy busy and busy. Hang in there!!!
by Alison   116 Posts
Posted on 7/20/2008 8:22 PM
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Yes, the nights are bad for me too.  Just know that we are all here for you.
by duchick   619 Posts
Posted on 7/20/2008 8:01 PM
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Here it comes again. It seems whenever I have any time on my hands things go south and tonight is no exception. Oh my, I'm so tired of this. When will it ever end?
by RichBrewer   214 Posts
Posted on 7/20/2008 7:47 PM
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Alison, I did finally sleep well. I felt much better today. I was so busy that I didn't have time to think about things. Now all I need to do is sleep tonight!
by RichBrewer   214 Posts
Posted on 7/19/2008 9:31 PM
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So glad to hear that! Isn't it just wonderful to have all of these friends here? We support each other wholeheartedly and we want nothing in return except for the happiness of each other. Have a good sleep and we will chat tomorrow.
by Alison   116 Posts
Posted on 7/19/2008 12:36 AM
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Alison,
Thank you so much for your concern. I'm doing better this evening. It helped that I have been very busy and haven't had much time to think about things. I'll look at D360 for a bit, read, and then hopefully fall asleep tonight.

Thanks to everyone who responded! I get more warmth and compassion here than I do anywhere else!

by RichBrewer   214 Posts
Posted on 7/18/2008 11:38 PM
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Hey Rich, how are you doing today? Keep us posted!
by Alison   116 Posts
Posted on 7/18/2008 4:40 PM
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Rich I see you made it through the night. Yes, my eyeballs sweat too sometimes. We are gonna have those kind of days hopefully they will be far and fewer in between.

You know October is still far away why don't you make that place a little more comfortable? Get yourself a bed something inexpensive your gonna need one anyway. I also hope your out finding stuff to do, Gym, tennis i don't now just activities that take you away. The workouts alone will be stress relievers and maybe make new friends.  You doing anything like that?
by asim   775 Posts
Posted on 7/18/2008 9:20 AM
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I am sorry to hear that you had a lonely night.  Some nights are a real killer. These are the things I do from feeling lonely is to read, write or my favorite organize. It also keeps me  from going crazy. Also when I am alone in the house I will call friends and talk all night. I hope you have a better night tonight.
by shock3177   338 Posts
Posted on 7/18/2008 7:41 AM
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I am so sorry to hear that you had such a lonely night last night.  I am three months out on my divorce and I still have nights and days like that.  This week was horrible for me.  When my kids were at their dads, my boyfriend was away with his son, and many people at work were off for the day it was horrifying for me.  I felt so alone.  That feeling can be paralyzying, but we need to get through it for better days are ahead.  I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful man, but I still have days where I feel alone when he is not around.  My mind just starts racing and the lonliness of missing my family unit (not my ex, but the family unit) becomes overwhelming because I can't change it.  Get support from friends and family and stay on D360....I go on here every day and it always helps just to vent...and yes you are right...there is always someone out there worse off than you are.   I hope you have a better weekend.  Also note that you will not always be alone.  You will one day find a beautiful woman to be with.  You need to believe that.  When I was going through my separation I was not even thinking about finding someone new and that is when my current boyfriend came into the picture.  When you are least expecting it it will happen.  Good luck!
by JLK   317 Posts
Posted on 7/18/2008 6:29 AM
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I'm actually "living" in the basement on a makeshift bed. I've been sleeping here for over 3 months. I haven't moved out yet to save money. I'll be moving when the deivorce is final in October I hope
asim, you were right. I made it through the night. God I'm lonely but at least it is a new day. Getting some sleep helped me and venting was good for me last  night. For the record, I didn't cry. My eyeballs were just sweating.

Oh my gosh Elane! I'm so sorry to hear that you are feeling so lonely too. I know what you mean about being 3 sheets. I simply can not drink much these days. It just makes everything so much worse. You are such a wonderful vibrent woman! You deserve the very best. You WILL find a good man worthy of your love. I guess asim said it best. Hang in there.

by RichBrewer   214 Posts
Posted on 7/18/2008 6:15 AM
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Sorry, I just see your post! Rich, can you move out of your parents' house? That is where you are staying, right? Maybe having a place of your own will lighten your mood a little bit? I hate to be alone too. Who doesn't? But we have to be patient. You will have a lovely lovely lady by your side. And I think we need to find a good bartender for our famous (infamous?) Elane. This girl is full of surprises, Mr. Rabbit first and now 5 cocktails. I wonder what is coming next!!!

Sweet dreams ...
by Alison   116 Posts
Posted on 7/18/2008 4:07 AM
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Totally know how you're feeling.  Posted awhile ago, and only one reply.  Feeling like sending the kids to the grandparents house may have been a mistake.   3 sheets to the wind and lonely as hell.  I guess it's my turn to feel crappy too.  You're not alone.  We'll feel like shit together!
by elane   348 Posts
Posted on 7/17/2008 11:25 PM
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I all can say is that you can and you will and tomorrow will be a better day! Hang in there Rich!

by asim   775 Posts
Posted on 7/17/2008 11:20 PM
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