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My kids are my life, and my soon to be exhusband hasn't wanted anything to do with them. Even had the guts to say they aren't his.

Ok. How do you take on a situation where the father of your children doesn't care about them, but wants to hurt you by trying to get custody, because he knows that they mean the world to you. He was abusive to me and my oldest son. Mentally and physically. My youngest son he didn't want anything to do with because he said that he hated him. When my first son was born, he asperated and I was the only one there with him 24/7 until he was released. My soon to be ex was to busy worrying about who he was sleeping with to worry about his child that could have died. What am I suppose to do? I'm terryfied because if he gets them he will hurt them. PLEASE.........I need advice and help.


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Posted on 7/2/2008 5:51 PM
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If you can, move out of the state with your children.  It will make his battle harder and probably not worth his time, $ or effort to fight, especially if he's a self involved loser.  Check with the bar association to make sure it is legal according to your state of residence and current situation, but I'm pretty sure as long as you do not have a restraining order keeping you in the county or state you can pack up and go. Make sure you have a good job lined up in this new state so that can be your excuse for leaving. Let him know where you are going just so it looks better, but don't let him know until you have one foot out the door.
by mamasgirl   21 Posts
Posted on 7/12/2008 2:09 AM
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get a good lawyer.  If you have proof of physical or mental abuse, then file it with the courts.  take out and order of protection in you have to for your kids.  You will not lose your kids.  He is just trying to control you from a different place, now that you are not together.  Be a bitch if you have to, but make sure your lawyer knows what is going on too.  good luck.
by dyben   293 Posts
Posted on 7/2/2008 6:45 PM
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Hire a great attorney, do diggin on hubby and make sure you document anything that you remember, times, dates & what happened. If need be let judge talk to your kids if they lived or witnessed it. As far as him not saying he is not their father..... go for that child support and let they be on his mind. You know better and maye a DNA test will shut his mouth.
 You take care and you are in my prayers.
by Branny   544 Posts
Posted on 7/2/2008 6:29 PM
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