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We have been separated for 9 months now. He has done very little to help us out financially...child support orders just came through. IRS check came in the mail and he brought it over for me to sign so he could go cash it. He made it clear that he felt the return was his and I had no right to any of it. I have bills to pay and children to support and I let him know I felt it was only fair that the girls & I get some of it to at least get caught up on bills. He said no it was all his money. The conversation turned into an arguement when he realized I had no intentions of signing the check. He became very loud and out of control...he has a terrible temper. He called me unforgiveable names in front of our daughters and when I asked him to leave he started throwing things. We were all crying (me and the girls) and he told me that the only way he was leaving was either if I signed the check or called 911. I considered calling 911 but had a gut feeling that it would get even uglier and my girls have been put through enough. My youngest has just been diagnosed as being bipolar and my 12 year old is...well 12. ;) Anyway, I signed the check and he left but now I'm wondering if I should do anything further. It sucks that we have all these disconnect notices and not much food and all of that could have been solved. Plus I'm wondering if I should report his behaviour to anyone. I don't think he would ever hurt us but he is clearly out of control. Honestly I'm pissed yet worried about him.
Q. Will the payment I receive in 2008 reduce my 2008 refund or increase the amount I owe for 2008?
A. No, the stimulus payment will not reduce your refund or increase the amount you owe when you file your 2008 return.
First of all, you should have called 911 - the police are there to calm situations down. You have two witnesses - your kids. Call the police and make a report of his behavior - and then get a restraining order - he threatened you & he scared the crap out of the kids. He figured out he can do that to you and it will continue, and get worse, if you do not take action. As far as the tax check - consult your divorce attorney - you have a right to up to half of that money (depending on the state you live in as that is marital property) he will probably be subject to reimbursing you.don't you have family, parents, sister brother, someone who can help you financially while he is being a jerk?
If you do not have an attorney, please go to legal aid tomorrow at your local superior court and apply for one and go from just being separated, to divorced.
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