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major surgery and the almost EX


All my paper work has been filed and the final divorce hearing is August 29
The almost EX just found out that he has a blockage of 80% in the main artery of his heart and they are going to put in a shunt
I am trying to be civil (boy is it hard)
He was an ass of a husband I left him because of abuse and control issues .Do I go to the hospital the day of the surgery (and NOT have to put up with the EX in laws) nor stay home and let our grown kids let me know what is going on and MAYBE visit later in the week
He is just know come to term that I am divorcing him and he can't stop me
He is now in a relation ship and so am I
What is the protocol in this situation.
HELP


by Annette57   3 Posts   read more from user >>
Posted on 6/29/2008 4:23 PM
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Thank you every one that is the very same way I feel and I was wanting to do but was unsure
I don't want him to get the wrong Idea
but I want my children and him to now that I care but that is as far as it goes i am not going back
and I really do not want to have to deal with his family
So I will stay home and I will keep in touch with the kids for updates and such
thanks again
Mary
by Annette57   3 Posts
Posted on 6/30/2008 10:33 AM
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I agree with spaznskitz and Barkley.
 He is still the father of your children. Even if he was a rotten S O B you are still tied to him thru the kids. It would be good for them to know that you have concern for his health and well being. Just asking your children for updates on his surgery would be enough to show concern.
My ex has a lot of problems but I would still like to know he is doing well and in good health. But I am just that kind of person. I don't hold grudges.
Take care
by trisha9054   853 Posts
Posted on 6/29/2008 8:29 PM
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I don't know why you would visit him at all. He was abusive to you. Let the kids visit, but you should stay away. Your both in new relationships, let this one go.
by sickntired   90 Posts
Posted on 6/29/2008 6:48 PM
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I agree with spaznktz.  Let him know you are there for him if he needs you and that you care, especially let the children see that you care and want him to be o.k.  Hope everything is ok.
by Barkley   807 Posts
Posted on 6/29/2008 5:20 PM
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Since he has a girlfriend now, she will probably be at the hospital during the procedure - so if I were you I'd stay home and get updates that day, then visit later.
by spaznskitz   2500 Posts
Posted on 6/29/2008 4:37 PM
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