beleive me you are young and have alot of time ahead of you.  I have been married for 10 years and I have 3 kids and I am in the same boat.  I love my husband, but I don't think I'm in love with him anymore.  We have our good days and bad.  You don't have kids yet, so my advise is make it a clean brake and move on.  It will only get worse (believe me I know).  You have no attraction to him already and that won't change.  I've been trying to find mine and I can't.  I was always told that the first year of marrage is the hardest.  If I was you I would just get out while you can.

Hello there~

Well i can tell you that i am in the same boat. I got married right out of high school and married my best friend, i wanted a normal life. I thought i loved him and the sex would get better but as time passed i only faked the happiness. I think that part that you have going for you is that you don't have any kids. I have one daughter and she i the only reason that i have stayed. I didn't want her to come from a broken home but i am starting to realize that this marriage is worse then a broken home. I want her to see what real true love is.. we all deserve that and so do you. I am now 24 and still dealing with the fact that its hard to let it go even if its bad. So if you ever need to talk please email me because i really know what you are going threw. I agree with the people below me there is someone out there for both of us that we are going to want to kiss and be kissed by each and every day.
We just have to get passed the loneliness and know that it will come, the hardest part is not going back to the bad just because its comfortable that is only selling yourself short :)

Good God...  you are young and you don't have children! I don't want to hurt you, but I doubt things will get better. It's too early in the game to have issues like this, and quite frankly, there is a lot more in life to experience at your age. I agree, it sounds like you married for other reasons than a real click with him. Make yourself happy now, don't settle for anything less.

Well, it sounds like you got married because you wanted a wedding, not a husband.  Trust me, I married when I knew it was a mistake, and I did it anyway, thinking it would somehow magically get better.  It doesn't.  If you are young (and, in my opinion, you are too young, because I was too), then you both have a chance to find someone you truly are happy with, and start your lives again and move on. Whatever you do, do not have children with this man, and do not complicate or mix your financial lives any further.  Only you can decide what to do.  But can you picture being with this man when you're old and gray? Would you regret not spending your life with a real love? Only you can answer.  If you can't picture a life with him, I think you know what to do.  You have to have love first, or you'll have nothing later.  Good luck

Ultimately, only you can decide what to do, because it is up to the people IN the marriage to define what marriage means to them. It sounds like it means something different to each of you. Some people really don't care about a physical relationship; in fact, in some cultures marriage is strictly a financial arrangement. However, it sounds like having your physical attention is what your husband expects, and you are unable or willing to give that.   I've learned a lot about marriage, but most of that came after I no longer had one. Any two people can wear gold rings about their fingers and live in the same house, raising children, raising cain. That doesn't necessarily make them married. So if they part, that doesn't necessarily make them divorced. It only makes them honest. Marriage is not about a license or a wedding ceremony. It's not about sacrificing who you are in order to keep a promise that you were incapable of making.   I didn't really know what I was doing when I got married at 19. I knew within a year that it was a mistake, but I kept trying to fix it. I kept "trying" to be happy, "trying" to be attracted to him, "trying" to be a good wife. Fifteen years went by, children came along, and things got worse - because they were never right in the first place.   Marriage is a conscious, willful decision made out of wisdom and the wholeness of the self. Our problem as a people is not that we don't know how to stay married. It's that we don't know how to get married in the first place.     Like I said, you must take responsibility for your own choices here, but if you feel you've made a mistake by getting married, you don't have to pay for it for the rest of your life. You can make a new choice at any time. Just learn from it, and the experience will not be lost.

Peace,
Julie
http://www.TakingTheStairs.com

Well I have been in a relationship before where I wasnt attracted to him, that same way. I loved him, but not as a sole mate but a good friend, i cared but it just wasnt there ya know? I stayed because i was lonley and need someone, but that was 3 years wasted of my life, because we both ended up with someone else, someone we both loved like no other, and who we wanted to kiss everyday!!! you will get very lonley, and you will want to have someone that you want to kiss everyday, someone that you can put your arms around and no thats where you want to be for the rest of your life, and believe me hes out there. but all this is up to you to deside. if you both arnt happy and not truely in love it will end sometime.