From Florida And Back

I left my husband of 31 yrs to come to Fl and be with an old boyfriend who I reconnected with in August of 2007. In February 2008 I came for a 3 day visit and found that I wanted to be with this man forever.  I went home and tried to explain to my husband that we should try counselling to repair our marriage. When he didn't respond appropiately I decided to leave him. On April 26th 2008 I came back to Fl. to start a life with this man. I am now about to return to my homestate because my friend feels that until I get a divorce, and he and I marry, God will view our relationship as wrong. We both are devasted by the impending separation and for me I am experiencing actual physical pain. He is in such emotional turmoil that he doesn't want to see me until he drops me off to leave. We haven't made love in weeks because he says it would be wrong in God's eyes. My husband thinks that I really want to save our marriage but I don't believe it's possible I love this man with my all and my husband has made no attempts to change (even for his own personal issues). My friend is the 2nd man I've been intimate with in my life. If we were to get married after my divorce I'd be his 5th wife and he'd be my 2nd husband. My emergency is that I don't know how I'll manga to exis without him and he's having the same problem.  Any suggestions? t