I am not divorced but my neighbors went through perhaps the most conflicted, lengthy divorce I have ever witnessed. 3 year to divorce and though it is final - the war is far from over. They have 2 beautiful children who have been severely psycholigically harmed dring this process. Both parents have so much anger, one appears to manipulate the children against the other and communicates constantly about how terrible the other is. I think it's leading up to a 2nd custody battle. I've known the children since their births ( they're 11 and 17 now) and I have a strong bond with both of them. I've been trying to be a "neutral territory for them to talk and feel whatever they need. The older has become very protective of the younger. They need the bitterness to stop. It is confusing to them - they don't kow who they should love - which is the saddest thing in the world. The one thing they are sure of is they have to choose. Thing is - that's so wrong. I'm considering arming them with a little info about PAS and helping them tell both their parents they can't listen to it anymore. I need your thoughts. Please help. These kids have changed so much from the confident, fun lovign kids they were 3 years ago. Thanks so much.
be there friend and maybe they need some counsleing to help them thro the tough times my kids went thro the same thing and we are going thro counsling... unfortunatly there father who is my ex doesnt think there is anything wrong with them he dont see them but everyother weekend and everyother holiday and 3 weeks out of the summer. i would suggest talking to the parent but again be wary but maybe they need some counsling like i said that isnt going to hurt them it helps more than anything. good luck. some times when a person is too close to the ordeal the kids have a tendancy to clam up and hide there emotional feelings and they will act out in behavior.
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