I live in S C. Just received my divorce Dec-07 You need to get to an atty. to answer a lot of these questions. If I'm not mistaken. Unless you have some type of temp. agreement either of you can move the child out of the house. My daughter and her ex played snatch the child for many years. Until they had a formal agreement there was nothing the police could do.

One year separation is just that. No co-habitation of any kind. Nothing that could be mistakenly considered co-habitation. Neither of you can date or have relations or live with someone of the opposite sex. My attys. wording exactly. If you can prove adultery you will have your divorce in 90 days. That's if everything goes smoothly. In my area of S C both parties have to have an atty. There is no do it yourself divorces. I had a friend who wanted to do that and the court wouldn't let her.

In spite of what some attys. will try to tell you (they want more money) adultery will not get you better terms; it will only get your divorce sooner. Don't fall into that trap. If she is a good mother negoitate the terms between you. Keep the attys. from getting into a "pissing contest". Sorry my fathers words for what attys. do. Good luck

Oh...and ps......just because your are in the military, does not mean you do not have rights to that child. There are many military guys, my husband was one of them, that have sole custody of the child!

Listen, get to an attorney quick. Find out what your rights are! That is the first step. If there is adultery or even the appearance...it can turn this whole thing around for you.

Seek a lawyer's advice.

Good luck!