Honestly, it seems like you are suffering from more than an unhappy marriage. This is my gathering on what you are saying. It comes off as if you are lonely, inside yourself and inside your marriage. It is something else going on with you that makes you feel like if you never fall in love again, or make love again, you dont know what you are going to do. Please forgive me if I am assuming, but thats how I feel. I dont know if you are really big on religion, but prayer changes any situation. Anything that seems hopeless or impossible. Pray on it, pray about it. Never make a life changing decision such as this without hearing his voice. Secondly I would get some personal counseling. Just to see why, you feel like your only way of true happiness is to be with someone. Maybe you know this reason already, I dont know. I am pulling for you!!!!!!!!!!Please keep us posted.

I have to agree with people above...kids will grow up thinking the relationship they see is what is normal.  They only know what they are taught.  Protect them, don't involve them in the problems, but make sure they get to see their parents happy, even if that means divorced but happy.  I grew up with divorced parents that didn't get along very well, and now my idea of what a relationship should be is very skewed, to say the least.  If I had been protected from the comments each had about the other, I think I'd have been better off.  Happiness IS important, life is too short to be miserable.  At least in my humble opinion.  I'm working toward getting happy now myself.  The road isn't easy, but I think I can see a bright light at the end of the tunnel...at least most days!

I think it is a mistake to stay in a marriage for the sake of the children. You are a role model for you kids, they imitate you and they learn from you. Even as adults, we know what makes us feel safe and it is usually what we are used to. If your children see you are miserable in marriage who is to say they won't grow thinking that is normal? You want to set a good example and they will find what to look for as quality relationships go in their future. Stay on decent terms with their mother for their sake & your sanity. Always be there for them even if they say they don't need you.  But show them what happiness is also.

You should do what feels right to you. If you are miserable in this marriage just think of your children, they can feel you are upset so get out . I am an adult now and I can still remember the bad times in my home growing up. Everyone thinks the children do not understand they do. No I did not think my parents were bad but when fights or arguing started when I was only 5, I would get my younger sister and hide in the corner with blankets & pillows around us, thought it would protect us if anything went wrong. What I am trying to say make a choice for you and your children that will make all of you happy with in the future. You can be a dad still whatever happens ok.
Take care and Good luck!

There are ways to sacrifice for your children without remaining in a marriage. When some people stay married for the childrens sake their attitudes change because they are so obviously unhappy. Everyone suffers then.

Let me say that I divorced my 1st husband many many years ago. Our daughter was 3. That daughter is grown and doesn't really like her father. Last month she tried to set me up with him. So the point is even if you waited til they were much older they would still want mom and dad together.

You can show interest in your children. Go the extra mile. Attend their school functions when possible. Get along with your ex for the sake of your children. Don't undermine family rules of parenting. Try to stay on friendly terms with her and pay whatever you owe, on time , every time. Make the phone calls, send the birthday cards. Have a separate birthday celebration with you and your child. Don't just be a good time Dad; be a parent.

I wasn't actively looking for anyone in my life when I met my last  husband. Get invloved in activities without the constant thought of having to find someone. Make friends. The someone will come into your life when you least expect it.