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I need to tell him and get everything started.

I got offered a position with my company in another state.  I want to get a divorce ASAP.  I haven't told him yet that I want out for sure.  We have been having problems for a few years and I told him before that if it didn't get better, I wanted a divorce.  The kids get out of school the last week in June.  I want to move over the summer and get them settled for the new school year (starts the week before labor day).
I am not sure how/where to do it.  I am afraid that he will freak out.  I don't want this to turn into a huge disaster (more than it already is).
How do I tell him, protect the kids, and save my job???
I deperately want out and want to move.


by marsham   16 Posts   read more from user >>
Posted on 5/14/2008 3:32 PM

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marsham -

fact of the matter is, if you want to move with the kids and divorce, you have to get his, and the court's, approval before you can go anywhere. There is a good chance that the court could rule that you can move, but he gets custody of the children if you do.

When you have kids, your life stops being your own to live - they have a right to be raised by both parents in the same state over your want for a new job and a new life.

You have to file for divorce and request the right to move, and then it will go from there - if he fights your move, there is a good chance he will win because the court frowns on disrupting a child's known way of life.

I'm a family law attorney.
by spaznskitz   1927 Posts
Posted on 5/16/2008 7:43 PM
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you have quite a bit going on here and you really need to take it one issue at a time. divorc can be really messy and long and difficult.  does he want a divorce?  will he fight you on moving the kids away?  another state may be a big issue for him.  think of this way...would you fight him if he wanted to take the kids to another state?
by Vicki   854 Posts
Posted on 5/14/2008 3:36 PM
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