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child custody and phone calls

I have joint custody of my child but I am the custodial parent. I have decided not to answer my exhusbands phone calls anymore because I am tired of his attitude toward me. Am I required by law to let him speak to our child at any reasonable hour on any day if it is not stated in the divorce document?

by ajkinsey   1 Post
Posted on 4/17/2008 6:56 PM

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Co-parenting is not about you & it is not about your X...it is about the child...every child has the right to be supported in his/her relationship with the other parent. If the other parent is not supportive of you....that means it is all the more important that you be supportive....wouldn't it be worse for your child to be getting battered from both sides? I am the custodial parent.....90% of the time the little ones are with me....but when they go with their dad, he refuses to answer the phone, confirm that they made it to their destination, to let me say goodnight to them, etc. I have an open court case to get this matter resolved.....I would never let the phone ring without answering it if my children's dad was calling for them....what right to I have to stand between my girls & their father? I urge all parents to take the high road & support their children's relationship with the other parent....even if he treats you poorly, is a jerk, etc....he is still their dad & he is what they got in this lottery of life...make the best of life you can for the good of your kids.
by RoseRed   146 Posts
Posted on 2/22/2011 8:17 PM
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Regarding phone calls and child custody.  I have been in a battle with my ex wife to give me the telephone number of the house where my daughter resides.  Instead she gives me her (ex wife's) cellphone number.  The rare occasions when I speak to my dauhter, she is on speaker phone on my ex's cell.  I am not sure if I have any legal recourse.
by pmr   7 Posts
Posted on 5/20/2010 4:33 PM
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I totally agree with everything you fine people suggested. (The good stuff that is) My problem is that the court order states that the phone calls not be monitored between parent and child. I don't monitor calls from my child to their other parent, but the other parent interferres and actually tells the child to say bad things "go away daddy, I'm busy" The child is under the age of 5 so I know they're not able to hold truly functional conversations, but the other parent yanks the phone from the chold in mid sentance, says "[the child's] done now" and hangs up on me. Calls last from 30 seconds to 1 minute. I miss my child.

Why does the other parent get their once a day phone call, but I don't? Now the other parent flat out tells me the child doesn't want to talk to me. I don't buy it.
by LloyDD   3 Posts
Posted on 12/15/2008 2:42 PM
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Unfortunantly I am going thru this myself. But I- am not the one getting to speek to my girls. My 15 yr old has a cell- but that doesn't mean I get to speak to her any time I want, she doesn't want to talk to me because of all the bad things he has drilled in their heads. My 11 yr old I only get to hear from once a month or month in a 1/2. Her sister doesn't want her to use her cell phone-eww!- and her dad wont let her use the house phone because it costs him to much $- But when they are w me for visitation (out of state) he calls them everyday and some times twice. Tell me what the difference is other than game playing and a control game. Just remember that your child will grow up knowing which parent was the bigger person. It does come back to bite.
I have been trying to get this issue taken care of for 2 yrs now. And it takes time.
by mouse   75 Posts
Posted on 8/19/2008 11:25 AM
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Unfortunately- you need to quit ignoring the calls.  My soon to be ex ignores my calls a lot of the time and it's very annoying.  There are important issues to hammer out- such as school, clothing, financial concerns (I'm in school and getting aid).  You may have to set down some rules about how you communicate, but you can't ignore him forever.  Yes, you are hurt.  Yes, you are angry.  Yes, you are bitter.  BUT- you need to be the bigger parent here.  Ignoring his calls only tells your child- "If I don't like it, I'll bury my head in the sand."  Is that the lesson you want him to learn?
by Dactyl   5798 Posts
Posted on 8/19/2008 10:51 AM
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legally he has the right to speak to the child once a day at a reasonable time - if oyu do not allow the phone contact, you will be in contempt of court.

 

remember something - any alienation on your part gives him ammunition to go for custody.

Get caller Id, you see him calling - you have the child answer it and tell the child to hang up after the call is done. If he asks to speak to you, you tell the child to say you are busy.


I'm a family law attorney

by spaznskitz   11339 Posts
Posted on 4/19/2008 10:42 PM
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The kids have a right to speak to either parent, you certainly don't have to talk to him but at some point the two of you should learn some civility for the sake of the kids. I've been going through this ever since my ex remarried to include having her monitor my phone calls and it's really kind of sick. Just because you divorce doesn't mean you stop being parents though some would appear to have it be so.
by goingnuts   33 Posts
Posted on 4/19/2008 5:07 AM
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yes - its annoying but IMO something you should try and do...
by oct15   175 Posts
Posted on 4/18/2008 12:40 PM
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I agree with angiemiller, it is not worth the hassle of him taking you to court for not letting him speak to his child on the phone.   Your child needs his dad in his life but the ex needs to respect the child's schedule and only call when it is appropriate.
by Barkley   912 Posts
Posted on 4/18/2008 12:07 PM
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I have to let my awful soon to be ex-husband call my son even though I just hate it.Although I feel like grabbing the phone(sometimes I do) and have had words with him.
Its not the law,but even though you don't like it the child has the right to speak to their father. He might end up taking you to court if you don't.Just arrange a set time of the day for your husband  talk to your child and hopefully it will get better in time.

Good luck!

by angiemiller1911   3 Posts
Posted on 4/17/2008 8:40 PM
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