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My husband left me after 7 years of marriage. He said that he never loved me and never should have married me,at the same time he tells me I'm an incredible wife. I was blind sighted as you can imagine. So he left a week ago,then a friend of mine told me of his myspace account and his new postings of pictures with this girl. I don't know what to do. I feel violated,disbelief,angry but I can't seem to do anything about it. Should I be looking into his myspace and can I use this information during the divorce?

by lostintranslation   73 Posts
Posted on 4/17/2008 7:25 AM

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"..." - Perspective and how to bring the information to light.

I do agree with some of the points of view presented below but I do not necessarily agree about qaulifying your friend and the friendship that the two of you share. Friends are placed in a very difficult position in their attempts to help you during an emotional and stressful period in your life. Their perspective may be skewed and their attempts to communicate their concerns may bring about friction when dealing with information that may hurt you but otherwise would allow you to have your "head in the sand"-type of syndrome. I would give your friends the benefit of the doubt; and, at the same time, place your self in their shoes to best determine if they did you right or wrong in providing you the information that was given. Again, it is a question of perspective...
by bp   1239 Posts
Posted on 4/17/2008 11:44 AM
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If you can use it or not depends on if you live in a state that allows for "fault" divorce or not, you didn't post that info so I couldn't tell you for sure...however, the info on myspace (or as I call it "meat space") would have to show beyond a shadow of a doubt that their relationship was sexual in nature - otherwise you will have the "she is just a friend that doesn't prove anything, there isn't anything going on, my STBX is psycho/paranoid" thing happening.

Now, the whole myspace thing - hun, you have got to stop obsessing - it isn't going to do you any good constantly checking out the pages to see what is going on. You are causing yourself a whole heap of stress you don't need - your friend isn't much of a friend telling you about it in the first place.

 

He's a two timing loser, you deserve better, don't lower yourself by constatnly looking at myspace - you didn't lose anything worth keeping and this chiquita he's with now, can't be all that much of a prize if she will take your leftovers instead of finding a man of her own.

 

Myspace is for teenagers and immature adults - find something more productve to do with your time than check out the adventures of lolita & the wandering dick. =)


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by spaznskitz   7745 Posts
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