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i am going to the lawyer on thursday and scared to death. im not sure what im really doing. i want to stay married but my husband is still saying his mistress is just a friend but over the weekend he stayed overnight. some friend huh. he says nothing about giving her up or seeking marriage counseling because he thinks hes doing no wrong. im so scared and worried and scared to think of being alone. i have pets and one grown son and 5 grandchildren but i still feel alone. what to do.
ok, deep breath, inhale exhale....You don't have anything to be afraid about when it comes to seeing a lawyer, right now you are exploring your options. You don't have to commit to anything yet. Actually once you leave the lawyers office you will feel much better because you will have an umderstanding of the process. You can file for a legal separation instead of a divorce for now - to let your husband know just how hurt and serious you are, while keeping yourself legally & financially protected.
Just because he won't go to counseling doesn't mean you shouldn't - you need the support, and if you do decide to file for divorce, the therapist can help you through it and help you to not feel so alone. Make sure you talk to your son about your choice, so he can support you as well. I'm a family law attorney
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