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My husband is in the army he has been abusive in everyway at sometime or another. He has told me he will leave me with nothing. I had a fully furnished apt and a car which he made me give up right after we were married.Between the two of us the only major purchases has been a laptop camera and printer which is in his possesion. Everything else was bought before the marriage or are in his name only and not paid off. He hasnt allowed me to work at all. We both have children by different people and none together. He hasnt been paying all the bills since he deployed a while ago. He is not giving me enough to pay bills such as rent water lights etc. One minute he says he wants a divorce then he says he doesnt ,me I am just tired of his games. The most recent stunt is he closed our joint checking with no mention of it to me. The last time we spoke he acted as if everything was fine but that is typical untill u ask him whats going on with the bill money. I have talked to several people and most of them said he is smart and has everything lined up to controll and minipulate the me and th whole situation. So will I walk away with nothing if we divorce?
First of all, contact the Ombudsman of the command that he is attached to. They will be able to get you to the right resources. My "soon to be ex" (he doesn't know yet) is in the Navy and I am prior Navy, the military does not condone that type of behavior.Second, do you have his child living with you or is that child with the mother? If that child is there with you, the military will make him support the child, but not you. Have you ever had any of the abuse documented or has it been witnessed by anyone? You need to start seeing a counselor/psychologist and start putting your life together so you can get back on your feet. The military does NOT tolerate abuse and will deal with him accordingly, but because of the Privacy Act of 1974 you may never know what happens in that case. There are many avenues of support through the Fleet and Family Support Center (FFSC), the Ombudsman, or contact the Commander/Colonel that is in charge of the unit he is assigned to.You need to get something from the bank showing that he cancelled the joint account without your knowledge and documentation showing that he is not keeping the bills paid while on deployment, he is receiving BAH and is deployed then that is to pay the rent and utilities in the residence you and him signed to rent or own.
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