there are so many issues in divorce and it's impossible for anyone to tell you what will happen financially, unless you talk to a lawyer.  hopefully you two can work this out in a civil way, without having to spend tons of money battling in court.  but typically, these decisions are made by factoring in many issues:  how long have you been married, what state you live in, number of kids, ages, income, assets and debts, name on the deed for the house, who works/who stays home/how long/work history, etc.etc.etc.  the list goes on and it can get complex.  your best bet is to talk to a laywyer after you have drafted a complete budget and assets/debts list.  hope this helps you.  i'm sorry you are going thru this. but things do get better.