about to loose everything

thanks vicki, ive seen your name all over this web site do you own it? lol no were not divorced. i wasnt even sure i wanted a divorce. in nov i told her i wasnt happy. we had some pretty serious issues and couldnt take the crap she was saying to me or about me to family and friends. i felt as though we were already seperated. again all i said was i was unhappy. ive always been a 50-60 hr a week worker. in july i was injured at work and after being almost helpless for two months ive been forced to be a house dad w/ a paycheck. i admited to my wife that the misery i was going through was most likly from not being able to put in the extra hours to provide for my family the way im used to or it could be medication (so i suffered the pain and cut out the meds) or mabye just bordome. i was a reck and didnt know wat to do. i told her i needed time. not away from her but at home to myself to try and regroup , straighten out some issues within myself, schedule my surgery and try to get back to the old me. she said she cant live here with me . 2 days later she said take all the time you need. 4 days later my 10 year old daughter told me her and mom were looking at apartments. when my wife told me about her moving she stopped contributing to household bills for jan and feb and i told her she could keep our income tax too. ( about 3800) i thought the money she saved for two months with virtuly no bills (about 3000) with the 3800 would be enough to give her a fresh start. we make about the same money and i took on all the delinquent bills so when she left she could leave with one foot forward even though i didnt want her to go. she suggested counsling , (your going to say yea thats probably a wise choice) well it would have been but she doesnt want to see a marrage counsler to find out why our marrage is breaking down , she wants me to seek counsling to figure why im ruining our marrage. im starting to feel like she wanted out and wants me to carry the guilt

yikes. that's so unfair of her. but sadly, you will need to have someone help you here. are you divorced? is there legal paperwork? the very least you can do here is take photographs of your property and if she removes items from your home (without the legal paperwork saying she can have it, or you agreed to give it to her), you will at least have that photos of proof. try to get her to be reasonable. if she takes everything, it will only make her look like a bad guy in court. that won't help her....and she may have to pay what each item is worth. maybe that will stop her from be irrational?