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Im in the navy and been married to my wife for 8 years now. Im currently stationed here in Hawaii. I moved my family back to Jacksonville,Fl because my wife did not like it here. She said that she felt worthless and wanted to go back home. So ive been a Geo graphical Bachelor for the last 5 months and i just got new orders to Virginia. I ask my wife if her and the kids will be moving to Virginia with me and all she did was gripe and complain about having to start all over again in another state. It kills me that im away from them. The dynamics of my household is not in tact. My daughter is always asking when ill be coming home and it hurts to here that from her. My kids are my life and i would do anything to keep this marriage together but i can not live without them for another 3 years if my wife decides to stay in Florida. I dont know what to do. When i brought up divorce she acted like if it was not a big deal. I have this gut feeling that there is someone else whispering sweet nothings in her ear back in Florida but i dont want to assume. I dont know were to start and dont know were this is going to end up but if anyone could give some helpful advice i would highly appreciate it.

by solo   1 Post
Posted on 1/17/2008 7:50 PM

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I agree with Bunnee, your wife knew she would be moving often when she married you. She needs to think of the kids first. The kids need dad in their lives. Can you ask her to go to counseling with you and then try again in Virginia? Good luck to you, keep us posted.
by Barkley   912 Posts
Posted on 1/20/2008 5:02 PM
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I think you need to have a very serious conversation face to face. I think she should support you wherever you have to live. She is your wife and this is your family. She knew the military life when she married you and started a family. She is being very selfish only thinking of herself. I'm sure the children would love to live with there dad again. I hope you don't get a divorce that would be awful, and it's sounds like you really love your family. I hope she isn't having an affair, but I think you need to get some answers soon so you can figure out what to do next. Good Luck
by Quincy   38 Posts
Posted on 1/19/2008 8:13 AM
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i gree couseling works - please consider trying it.
by jackson   693 Posts
Posted on 1/18/2008 1:50 PM
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this is really sad. can you get some leave time to go home and go to counseling and try to fix all of this?
by mikem   286 Posts
Posted on 1/18/2008 9:36 AM
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