Child Custody and Seperation

Thanks for all the comments guys. Regarding the counseling/staying together thing, we've tried it just doesnt work, she gets better for 3 days and really restrains herself from being a knucklehead but eventually she goes back to being the loon. I am just disheartened at this point and dont believe she will ever change until the rug is yanked from underneath her. Ive heard about keeping a journal elsewhere and find it interesting everyone was commenting on that. I wonder if it is admissable in court and just how valid it would be considering its just one persons accounts of stuff that happened. I also worry about her finding it, taking my daughter and running. My wife would be completely unwilling to allow me full custody simply out of spite. She honestly loves our daughter she just displays it wrong, doing things like feeding her choclate for breakfast to show love instead of disciplining and explaining the importance of learning. Sorry for the long period of time to respond hard to get to a computer that she doesnt constantly watch over and check where I've been. Does anyone know of any good sites for free or cheap that can offer me legal advice on the subject? Thanks again for all the help :) Scott

(Continued) Email me at jessicatoledo2002@yahoo,com if you would like to talk anymore. I know what you are going through.

I am going through almost the exact same thing, except the opposite. I believe my husband to be bi-polar. We have been married for 9 years and have three children together. He finally moved out right before Thanksgiving. And I say finally because he threatened me at least two to three times each year to leave. It was like riding a roller coaster. I wouldn't know from one day to the next what kind of mood he would be in. One day he wold be calling me every name in the book and the next day he would want to be romantic and tell me that he didn't mean the things he said, that he was just mad. As far as you leaving and keeping your daughter, here's how it worked in my situation. I live in Ohio and if we were seperated and I had "possesion" so to speak of the children, he could not take them away from me nor could the police, as long as there was no threat to the children. And vice versa, if he had them, he did not have to give them back to me and the police could do nothing about it. This is the case until there is some form of child custody set forth by the court. If there is a customdy order, then the police can forceably take the children from the parent whjo should not have them. I was the nice parent though. I set up an equal visitation with him. I knew that my children would be at my mother-in-law's house while he had them, since that is where he is living. I also wanted to make sure that when we do go to court, I can prove that I made every effort to ensure that I supported his ongoing relationship with them. Even though I knew that them being there during the week, on school nights would eventually get to be too much on the kids and him too. I knew that would happen, but I would not have been able to get him to agree to anything less. Last week, he called me and said that he though that I should keep the kids during the week because it is too much on them and his mother to have them there that much. It' s hard when you knowwhat is right.

Sounds like your wife needs counseling. If you talk to her and tell her you are considering a seperation would she then straighten herself out? You seem like a very caring father that wants the best for your daughter. Is your wife on medication? I would get legal advice as soon as possible. Start a journal of your wife's actions and poor parenting so you have something to prove. Your daughter still needs her mom though. Your wife needs to get help so she can be a better person. Have you tried to talk to her family members, do they see it? Do you still love her if she could change?

I would call an atty immediately and start keeping all records of anything your wife does that is detrimental to your daughter to have for the courts, police, attys, etc. ....Be proactive and start looking into your choices as soon as possible.

i don't know the laws about this in your state, but i would ask a lawyer and talk to your wife. maybe she would want you to have custody? could that be possible?