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He never stops.....

Recently I filed a PFA against my ex due to some abuse issues mostly verbal and some physcial. Primarily due to my sixteen year old's boyfriend that her Dad wanted her to break up with after they were together quite some time. His only vice was that he told her to stay away from her dad because she was afraid of him and her dad saw it on her cell phone in a text he had sent her. It got pretty bad for a while so I filed for and was granted the PFA.. Things have calmed down a bit but now he has my two youngest convinced that they should live with him because I still allow my 16 year old to see her boyfriend. She's an honor student plays on varsity b-ball and holds a part time job. she deserves to be happy after the hell he (dad) put her threw. anyway...if he takes the two youngest away...I know he'll reduce the amount of child support he currently gives me...which I use to pay my rent. He stopped paying the mtg on our home to force me out and I've been hoping from place to place since wtih all three kids in tow. Now I'm afraid that he'll reduce the amount of money he gives me and I'll be forced to live in a one bedroom apartment because I won't be able to afford much else. He makes about 60 thousand a year while I make 27 thousand. Is there a chance he can sue me for support if so I swear I'll go to a homeless shelter. I think my two youngest feel like he's the victim because when he was served the PFA he cried and they've never seen him cry so they're a little protective of him. He's also controlling kinda like Hitler.So I'm sure he's taking advantage and making it seem like I'm the bad person. A littel help please!!


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Posted on 1/3/2008 9:34 AM

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This about power and control. Controlling, abusive people never do stop, you are right. The threat to take away your two youngest children is another way to maintain control over you and your daughter and add stress to your lives. Talk with someone at a local domestic violence center to help reset your view of reality. It will help you to think clearly and to identify strategies to keep your family together away from this man who does not appreciate his wonderful three children. He is threatened by your daughter's boyfriend because he is helping her to see she has a life of her own outside the control of her father. Your daughter may benefit from counseling so that she can become a strong, independent woman who makes good choices about her life and understand the dynamics of what is going on. Then, I agree with the above, get a good lawyer.
by SusaninFlorida   3 Posts
Posted on 1/19/2008 2:17 PM
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I agree with Cindy the court will order and has ordered him to pay a certain amount. This should stay the same. Just keep working and saving as much as you can so you can support yourself and your children. Your children will respect all you have done for them so take care of yourself and don't get "bogged down" with your ex. Stay strong.
by Barkley   910 Posts
Posted on 1/3/2008 9:53 PM
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i'm confused. are you divorced? if you are, don't you have divorce papers that state how much he has to pay and what/where/when, etc....how can he just not pay if he works? the state can garnish his wages automatically? he can't just give you less child support because he is mad etc. or stop paying the mortgage if the court papers says he has to. 1. you need to call your lawyer or seek legal aid for this. get your divorce decree papers out and take a look at them about the finances etc... 2. you need to call the abuse help line. click on that link to the right where it says abuse help. read it and call them to get next steps and information. 3. you need to take back control over this situation.
by cindy   79 Posts
Posted on 1/3/2008 10:23 AM
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