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I don't know about you, but this is ALL way to emotional for me. My husband filed for divorce over 1 yr ago, after my youngest daughter caught him having an affair with "her" younger "best" friend. I love him with all my heart, I wish I didn't. Neither one of us will move out. My daughter is so hurt by the betrayal, she moved out. My husband moved in her room. I would go absolutely nuts if he has one of his girlfriends in "our" home. This is not just a house. I have wonderful memories of our family here. It's about respect. He will not make me any kind of offer yet. But, I know if I want to stay here, I will have to make a lot of money to make the bills with out him. If your wife can afford to keep the house, I know the kids would appreciate it. I mean my house is my security blanket right now. I am going to be devestated the day I am made to leave, and call some small, lonely, odd place home. But, there is nothing I can do. Right now I can't even afford to put gas in my car, and food in my mouth. My youngest is 19, he is the only one else living with us. He works, but makes just enough to feed himself, thank god. Yea, we all with we had done things different. Know one get's married to get divorced. It sounds like, it dosen't matter who cheated on who now. But, what will make your children stable, content and feel secure, while you and your wife figure out how to live apart WITH respect. I hope you do a better job of seperating the two than my husband. He just keeps hurting them and hurting them. Yes, our kids are grown. But none the less they are really hurting, and he will NOT acknowledge this. I am still in the Angry, betrayed and devistated stage. Best of luck to you. Because I really don't know what to do at this point either. And, give yourself credit for at least trying to find the best solution for everyone. I would do anything to see my husband think about the family again, and not just his love life. S

Why are you making her agree to these terms? I mean remember you are the one that started this whole thing. Remember? If you want her to be happy you should just walk away, i mean isnt it more inportant that the kids have a roof over their heads? or are you just worried that there may be a man in the house around the kids? I mean i think that you should talk to her and express how you feel about someone being around your children, hopefully she's the type of person that cares about the childrens well being and wont have them around someone that they dont know. But someday she will find someone that she loves and will probubly get married one day, but you have to let it go, because by doing this you are trying to have a say in her decision making, you cant do that anymore, unless it has something to do with the children, Let her and the children have the house it will make you feel better in the long run, it's better than the children having to move from place to place, what do you think?? Let me know.