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I have decided enough is enough .. now how should I leave?

If you have read my questions, you know alittle about my marriage problems with my husband. For those of you that haven't, to put it simply- he has an anger management problem. I have spoken to numerous counselors, and they all tell me to try and hide money, important paperwork etc and when I am ready just leave. I am told that they have seen situations like mine before and the husband reacts very badly to the news of a seperation/divorce. Not only do I not want to be in a bad situation anymore, I need to protect our 5 year old son. At first, I was planning to do it face-to-face, that is how I would want it done; But after reading most abuse escalates to physical abuse when the spouse tries to leave.. I am confused and scared. Please advise 


by Nichola   23 Posts   read more from user >>
Posted on 12/18/2007 6:42 AM
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Do what you need to do. If he's got anger issues, then leaving vs. telling him won't make it better for him either way. He'll still explode. If it's something you need to do for yourself, because you feel it's right, then I would recomend getting your stuff ready to go, even out of the house if possible. and then sitting with him and an impartial third party (priest, pastor, couselor..somebody non-threatening, so he doesn't feel ganged up on) and laying it out. I guess the best way of putting it is to make it like a marital inttervention. Just remember, the final decision is up to you. Whatever you do, STAY SAFE.
by Robert-Boyd   2762 Posts
Posted on 12/18/2007 6:57 PM
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wow i agree with theresa. However if he has become physical with you there are shelters for women who are abused. They really can help with all the proceedings.
by BREN   7 Posts
Posted on 12/18/2007 5:20 PM
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making this kind of decision is never easy. but sometimes things are obvious. go with your gut. only you know.
by theresa   71 Posts
Posted on 12/18/2007 8:55 AM
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