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Rape, Incest, Unwated Pregnancy... What would you do now?

This is directed at the woman here, but men can and are welcome to share their thoughts on this question.

Ladies, if you were repeatly raped by a family member (under conditions that did not allow you to prevent it or report it to the authorities or seek other preventive measures) and your rape nightmare resulted in you getting pregnant with an unwanted child, to which your family, church, and others in your life looked upon you and your pregnancy as a really shameful mark against you personally, what would you do?
...(regarding your unwanted pregnancy)
(There is an honest reason why I am asking this to which I may or may not share later)

by BASSET 1132 Posts
Posted on 8/17/2009 11:23 PM

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Carry the pregnancy to full term and do your best to raise your child regardless of everything?
Carry the pregnancy to full term and give up the child for adoption?
Get an abortion despite your religious views and your church views against abortion?
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Bassett, I'm glad you never gave up trying to understand and holding on to your strength. Answers can take forever sometimes.
I, too, am thankful I was allowed to live and be adopted. My parents were German musicians touring America my adopted parents said. Greatest adopted parents ever. Lost them simultaneously at age 17. Devastating. But really that was 17 incredibly good years, so how could I ever forget that?
Your daughter will be lucky to receive your loving guidance over the years!

by AlanE 68 Posts
Posted on 8/21/2009 1:44 PM

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PIERCEHEART, YOU FUCKING FREAK FROM A REJECT CIRCUS... YOU CAN SAY ANY FUCKING THING YOU WANT CAUSE i KNOW ALONG WITH OTHERS THAT YOU ARE FUCKING HIC WHO HAS NO BALLS TO COME OUT AND PLAY AS HIMSELF. YOU, HIC, HAS TO HIDE BEHIDE FRAKE SCREEN NAMES LIKE A BIG PUSSY WITH NO BALLS. FINE, BUT I DON'T HIDE. BRING IT ON BITCH CAUSE YOU ONE UGLY MOTHER FUCKER!!!

by BASSET 1132 Posts
Posted on 8/20/2009 10:30 PM

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I am a guy, but I know that if the church was judging others because of life circumstances it is not a church that I would attend. I have heard these types of horror stories, but their is a special place in hell for the abusers of women and children. Take heart in that, our lives on this earth are but a brush of wind compared to eternity. I choose eternity. Be well, it is not as bleak as you think.

by Jamesalone 2778 Posts
Posted on 8/20/2009 10:30 PM

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Gosh Basset, why do you get so mean? After all the sweet email you sent my way.... Shame on you!

by piercedheart 27 Posts
Posted on 8/20/2009 10:23 PM

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PIXY...

First off, if you would have read all my post and not some, you would clearly know that I do not always take the so-call victim role on things. I only post the truth about things that happen in my life. As some of my post reflect nothing but humor in them and not the so-called victim role. Next, the rape blog is based in part on the true story of my biological birth mother and my birth. This is how I can to be born. Last, if your don't like what I write, so fucking what. Don't read my post so you can just shut the fuck up. How's that for your bullshit victim blog you assuming son of a bitch?!

by BASSET 1132 Posts
Posted on 8/20/2009 10:12 PM

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You ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS can CHOOSE to report the crime AND get yourself out of the situation. ALWAYS.

I can't answer this question when assumes such a passive and helpless position.

Basset why must you always take the victim stance?

by pixy 100 Posts
Posted on 8/20/2009 7:58 PM

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What a difficult question. I just don't know.

by piercedheart 27 Posts
Posted on 8/19/2009 8:52 PM

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I would raise the child- I don't believe in abortion- not for any reason. That child - even though it was concieved in a bad way- is still half of me and I would raise it as best I could.

by mtnvly 3539 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2009 1:06 PM

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I have to be honest. Abortion. I am not sure if I could handle the emotional trauma of it all. The child is innocent but a reminder of what the abuser did to me.

Your mom was a bigger woman than I could ever be. You have to admire her for it. May I ask how did you find out about it? I thought you were adopted.

by vlady 2123 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2009 11:22 AM

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I, personally, would have carried the baby to term and given it up for adoption. I'm a good mother, but at this point in my life, I need to focus on getting done with school and getting into my career. I have 3 other children I need to raise. It would not be fair to raise one in the circumstances I am in right now.

by Dactyl 2607 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2009 10:59 AM

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I just saw this blog and I see your comment. I hope everyone's comments have brought you some resolution and peace.

Take care

by lifeinpurgatory 1830 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2009 10:55 AM

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Yesterday, after I long made peace with this issue (the incest rape pregnancy) I came across something that hit home and open the scares of this issue up. Made me feel like shit and it wasn't healthy for me so I wrote this poll to help close up those old scares.

The woman in this blog could (and I'm sure has been) any woman out there, but in my case, this woman is my biological birth mother (she died in the late 80's and I never knew her personally) and she picked option 2 above. For this I owe her so much. She gave me life and in turn, my daughter life to. I just wanted to see what others thought so I could know if my bbm (birth mom) made a good pick.

Now that I have read replies, I can start to close up these scares and move on like I had for years. Thanks.

by BASSET 1132 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2009 10:23 AM

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Let me say it wasn't my fault. I was a little kid fighting against someone bigger and stronger. I don't remember much about the first one, but the second (brother) held me down and put a pillow over my face to keep me from screaming. I told my mother but she did nothing. A little kid has no control. There is nothing i could do to stop it.

by bluebird 1157 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2009 7:10 AM

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Thankfully I didn't get pregnant when I was in this situation. The first time I was 3, then again from ages 9 to 11.

My mother didn't even tell me that's how girls get pregnant. If I had gotten pregnant, I would have gotten an abortion.

Absolutely if I had gotten pregnant my family would have thought it was my fault. To this day they say it was because i was too pretty. I was a little kid but they blamed me, not my dad and not my brother.

I am still tomented dealing with the fallout from it. I've never told most of my family members and they think I avoid the family because I don't get along. Idiots.

I, by the way, think that parents are not always the best ones to have custody of a child. Surprising, right?

by bluebird 1157 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2009 7:05 AM

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Bass, I would definitely have the baby and give the baby up for adoption. This is me, a 44 yr old woman, with three children of my own. If the person were my young daughter, I would have to day I do not know.

by Iam 480 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2009 6:55 AM

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Oh gee basset this is a hard question. I honestly so not know what I would do in this situation. I don't believe in abortion for myself but I could not look down on someone that did under this circumstance.
If you know someone this has happened to I'm very sorry for her.

by sjg 1772 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2009 3:01 AM

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It is a nightmare of huge proportions and the decision should be the woman's entirely. She should not be criticized for her decision as she would take into account her own beliefs pertaining to everything. If the rape is by a family member, the laws of the state may have a ruling on the permission of such a pregnancy coming to full term.

by kevinwo 734 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2009 12:35 AM

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I would say that if the woman was old enough and was comfortable, by that I mean not haunted, because it would be tough. But I would see if someone in the family is will to take it in and raise it as their own.

Then again if she was young I would do the same as I mentioned or place it up for adoption.

That is a terrible thing to happen to her...

by Lovemeknot 240 Posts
Posted on 8/17/2009 11:38 PM

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Oh; Dang, this would be a hard one. And I would rather know the age before I could give my true perspective on the matter.

by Lovemeknot 240 Posts
Posted on 8/17/2009 11:28 PM

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