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I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I WANT TO DO? WHAT DO YOU THINK I FEEL I NEED TO DO, LEAVE OR STAY?

How does one decide? I have been married for over 17 years now, to a military officer, three children, a house, dog, the American life. Children that idolize their father and think he is just the best. And now I am faced with some very life changing decisions. Not just for me but for the ones I love. I have been with him since high school and we have had so much fun and travels in our marriage. Along with his affairs. I know of two, one maybe a month long after 7 years of marriage…I forgave him and we started over and our relationship got much better than before…then the big one a three year affair....and that has came to a head in our relationship, I don’t know if I can stay and try to work things out…how do I go on? Or do i? do I move with him this summer to Hawaii for three years? Oh please god help me deicide!!! What is best for me, the kids….ect…I have no idea what I want or how to figure out what I want!!!

by DAZEDNBROKEN 8 Posts
Posted on 4/17/2009 10:16 AM

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Sme thing happened to me, my wife had a 3 day affair then I forgave her, and we went on.
Now she was caught having yet another affair of 6 months.
Once a cheat, always a cheat!

I obviously didn't mean that much to her, or otherwise she would of said "No Ty".
You can find someone out there that is going to be true to you no matter what.
As for the kids, at least they will know that it's wrong what he did.

Not to mention he may bring in some std into your life.

by cmmtech 8 Posts
Posted on 11/18/2009 3:28 AM

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twice cheated on is twice too many. you deserve better. he did no learn from this the first time, and had no problem betraying you again. most likely, he will do it again, and again. he has already shown this. i am sorry but my honest opinion is, leave, heal, and when the time is right... find someone with true honor and integrety. i am a former marine, and as a officer, he knows that adultery is a violation of the ucmj, "uniform code of military justice", if you wished, you could wreck his carreer with this. i reccomend using it as leverage for a fast, fair settlement. i am sorry for your pain. and wish you luck either way you go. if you give him another chance, and he betrays you again. the pain won't be his fault.. it will be yours. for he has shown you already who and what he is twice. why do you wish to allow him to crush you again. stand up for your self. you are worth it. gl

by oldfashionfool 113 Posts
Posted on 11/18/2009 12:49 AM

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im sorry to say this i have big problems in my marrage but if i was cheated on for three days there would never be any going back. it will happen again and next time u might not find out before its too late for ur sanity.

by benbettor 17 Posts
Posted on 11/18/2009 12:21 AM

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Lisa Cannon
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Hi Dazed and Broken -

Please read the post I left on your other blog today.

It's important.

Good luck, and get help.

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by Lisa Cannon
Posted on 4/18/2009 12:32 AM

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