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Creepiness Factor

I have no inclination to date young women. I just thought this was amusing...

My younger brother was passing through town a couple of months ago, and called me to ask if I'd like to join him for a drink. I don't see him often, so I accepted. I joined my brother (50), my nephew (44), and a childhood friend (53) at a local restaurant/bar. All three of them are divorced, and none of them has a clue that I am headed that way.

During the course of the couple hours I spent with them, they were all making comments and playfully "hitting on" (flirting with?) the 25 year old waitress. (Oh yeah, they're pigs..all three of them.) When they learned her age, they started discussing when it's "creepy" for an old guy to hit on a younger woman. They called it the "creepiness factor" and decided that if you take the guy's age, divide by two, and add seven, that's the cutoff point. So if my nephew, who's 44, hit on a woman younger than 29, it would be creepy, where for my brother, the age is 32.

I found this amusing, called them all pigs, and sipped my Sam Adams. Now I thought you all might find it equally amusing, and wonder what you think.

So what do you think? Yes, I already know they are pigs, but feel free to echo those sentiments.

by 2much42long 3031 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2009 1:55 PM

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Okay, here's a definite "creepy" story. My sons were in South Pacific last month. Community theater. The guy who played Emile was too old, definitely over 60. Ideally he should have been 45-47. The young woman who played Nelly was 23, and engaged to be married. (The wedding is next week.) A week before they opened, the boys came home saying that when Emile and Nelly had to kiss during a scene, he tried to give her tongue! The guy's over twice her age!!! He could be her grandfather!!
That's just gross.

by 2much42long 3031 Posts
Posted on 8/8/2009 6:43 PM

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Yeah, someone too young is creepy. I know I wouldn't feel comfortable with it.
I figure five years' difference either way is ok.

by SpitTheDummy 124 Posts
Posted on 7/29/2009 5:08 PM

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I hope you don't read my comment Cpaul, I apologize for some of the words I used (gross, grandfather). It's none of my business what anyone does as long as they are happy together.

I just happened to have read this a day after I was out and I saw this father and daughter come in the pool area. They got in the pool and the father started feeling up his daugher, then kissing on the inside of her legs. I guess it was NOT a father-daughter outing. Just kinda shocked me.

by lifeinpurgatory 1830 Posts
Posted on 6/21/2009 11:20 PM

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Cpaul, sorry, but a 57 yr old man with a 25yr old girl (GIRL) is gross to me. You could be her grandfather. I couldn't look at someone younger than one of my sons in any sexual way.

My stbx is 7 yrs younger than me so I'm not against a gap in age but I think it depends on what generation.

Like 18 yr old with a 28yr old - sure only 10 yrs but come on, one's still a child. Whereas a 50 yr old w/a 60 yr old, okay..prob more in common.

It creeps me out when I see these old men even looking at a young girl sexually. I guess same wud apply to a woman looking at a young guy (but we usually high five them, aka Cougars nowadays...)

by lifeinpurgatory 1830 Posts
Posted on 6/21/2009 8:06 PM

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Well...I don't know about the "creepiness factor", I quess it depends on now well the two parties relate. I'm 57, I would find it hard to relate to a woman younger than say 35, and probably more comfortable with someone around 40 or 45 as far as having common interests. But hey, I was flirting with a girl yesterday in the check out line at the store who was probably 25, she was cute, receptive, and was flirting back...so who knows...I'd have taken her home with me for the night given the chance.

by cpaul1591 11 Posts
Posted on 6/14/2009 5:12 PM

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I married a man 3 years older then me. I don't think that was quite enough! I am not set on a #, but with age comes grace and maturity. Now, that would be refreshing!

by macandmadismom 134 Posts
Posted on 5/27/2009 4:05 PM

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Take the guy's age and reduce it by 16. Anything younger than *that* is creepy. If you could have fathered it, don't sleep with it, don't even muse about feeling it up. If you were old enough to diaper it in its infancy...

I don't know yet whether I have a double standard for women dating younger men.

by felix7 463 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2009 10:06 AM

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The creepiness factor is inversely related to his modified gross income. LOL

by Iam 474 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2009 9:59 AM

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yikes....I like older men. Coffee Guy is exactly 9 years older and it suits me just mine. More than that would not work out. Hopefully all the plumbing is still working.....lol

by vlady 2119 Posts
Posted on 3/26/2009 12:38 PM

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You know what? I'm discovering it's not the years that matter so much as the life experiences or the 'maturity'....

For instance I know several men who are almost 20 years younger than I with whom I can talk as if they were my age, while I cannot with many their age.

There are several my age and older who I cannot talk to because they are too busy partying.

It seems to me that the actual years don't matter so much, except as a sort of guideline that one HOPES that one has some sort of similar maturity at some point.....

Just my two cents...

by lizm 703 Posts
Posted on 3/25/2009 10:50 PM

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Actually, my oldest sister married a man who was 20 years her senior, when she was in her early twenties. They stayed together for life. He passed away a couple years ago, when he was about 85, and she about 65.

So, creepy or not, sometimes it works.

by 2much42long 3031 Posts
Posted on 3/25/2009 10:39 PM

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creepiness factor.... that's too funny... older guys for me, I don't know why, but older, taller and bigger than me...lol...

by gemi 1064 Posts
Posted on 3/25/2009 6:43 AM

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My general rule of thumb is my mother...she's 16 years older than me, which means she got preg when she was 15. Anything older or younger than that means either potential kid or parent = no ty. lol

by delia_M 2861 Posts
Posted on 3/25/2009 1:30 AM

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Hilarious! I love that they came up with a mathematical equation for creepiness! Does this apply to older women hitting on younger men, too? I just whipped out my calculator and figured out the cutoff point for me, so look out... any guys 26 or older are fair game! Seriously...before I got married I usually dated men who were older than me by about 5-10 years. I married a man who is eight years younger than me. Obviously, that did not work out too well. He is immature and irresponsible, but I still would not rule out getting involved with a younger man again. Lately, I find myself checking out older guys again. They just seem more relaxed and comfortable with who they are than the younger guys. Any age difference more than 10 years...well, it would give me something to think about, but I think it's silly to limit yourself with rigid rules. If two people hit it off and are happy together, why not?

by meteor 488 Posts
Posted on 3/25/2009 1:14 AM

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I like older men. I tend to relate better to them.

by Dactyl 2606 Posts
Posted on 3/22/2009 5:33 PM

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My stbxh is 10 years younger than me! Been together 20 years. When we first met....I thought he was older than he was...he thought I was younger. We went out for about 2 weeks before we knew how old each other was! I think I freaked out more than him....

Even now, I would prefer a younger guy....but 10 years younger is my limit!

:)

by zuki 685 Posts
Posted on 3/16/2009 5:43 PM

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Who cares about age? if the love and physical attraction is there, why fight it?

We all go through life evaluating people, places and things. In love it shouldn't matter, if it is true love and both parties are willing to work at it.

by BrianL 104 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2009 11:49 PM

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I dunno, I think if there is more than a 10 year age difference, the creepiness factor comes into issue. But that's just me - I'm dating a guy who's two months older than me, and I tease him about being an "older man."

by duchick 619 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2009 6:47 PM

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I don't think age matters as long as two people can connect in ways other than sexual attraction. If they share mutual interests, morals and beliefs. My stbx is 11 years younger than me and it wasn't a factor in current events. I like younger women and always have. I am more 'boy' than man so I fit in better with a younger crowd. I never wanted to grow up and I fight against doing so. I like a part of me to always be a boy. But now that I am older I can feel that creepiness, but still prefer younger over older. Just nowadays younger for me, means like 30+ lol

by BEHaws 657 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2009 4:18 PM

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Newsflash: She works for tips.

by Natalie 729 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2009 4:06 PM

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I not sure lol I'm 31 and I think some older men are hot heh. I really thinks it depends. My parents are 9 nine apart in age but they love each other still. There was 15 years between my grandparents and they never divorce either. Me, I married a man 2 yrs older hmmmm maybe I should be looking for the older man lol. But really I think I would date a man about 10-15 yrs older then me. Everyone is different :)

by lillybaby 10 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2009 2:49 PM

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Very funny and also interesting.

I have no idea what the creepiness factor age range is/should be but what I do know is that many people, if asked, would say they look far younger than they are cronologicaly. And also, many "older men" honestly believe that that hot young waitress is secretly dying to sleep with them.

I have a friend who works for playboy and is often called upon to attend those mansion parties and she said that her job and the job of every playboy bunny is to make sure every man there leaves believing that the bunnies thought he was the hottest guy at the party but because of "bunny" rules in their contract there could never be a relationship. Lol!

She said that every girl uses the "bunny rules" as their exit line.

by timless 781 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2009 2:27 PM

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well, that is not that bad, i think, just as they don't look too old

for me i am 33 but i look younger and usually young guys hit on me most of the time

well, right now i'm flirting with a 26 year old guy that does no get the idea that it's a no go :) because of the age difference

by aceanita12 282 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2009 2:02 PM

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Thanks for the laugh. I like that "The creepiness factor"

by sjg 1766 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2009 2:00 PM

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