Are/were you married to a man/woman child?

My man child not only manipulated  me into running the entire house and kids but also got me to develop 21 properties & buy him a job/franchise all while sabotoging wherever he could.  In 06 after running 13 houses single handedly, 3 teenagers, and attempting to run a franchise, I went over the edge, the business failed & it has finally occured to me what has been going on.  I am so looking for Help & answers.  What is wrong with my head to have not figured it out & let this go on for so long?

My stbxh went from living with parents to living with me...so had never been on his own. I thought we would be equals....but found out quickly that he didn't understand the concept of bills, checking accounts, credit cards, etc......wasn't into fixing anything around the house or dealing with minor car things. He never had to do any of this before we married.

I had to become the financial person, the carpenter, the landscaper, the housecleaner. Only thing I didn't do was work on the cars (only household appliances!!) But I was the one to bring them in for oil changes, battery changes, handle inspections, registrations, insurance, etc.

I will say that I never complained to him about this....I figured it gave him more time to play and be successful at his career.  Even though I was working on my career at at the same time!!!

But like others have said, it seems to have back-fired on me and now he feels he doesn't want me anymore, he wants to be alone and do his own thing. 

I didn't think I married a man-child, but maybe that's what a mid-life crisis does to a man? He seems to be like one now...

LOL vlady no maybe to her . But a child does not work 40 to 60 hours a week , Help raise the child. It seems  others eyes would be because your values are not the same as his values. But if you did not change his daiper at the church  then he was a grown man or woman. It seems when a The man has to do everything for the woman it's ok but let a man change from what a WOMAN thinks is not the way he should be acting then he is a child. Hmmmmm confused or is it you feel so much better than him in your eyes you feel like your superior to him now so your the adult in your eyes. Intresting concept. ;)

I did marry a "Man Child".  I will admit that I enabled him to be that way.  I took care of him and absolutely did everything so he could play.  In the end I think it backfired because he wanted to be alone and is now paying the bills, cleaning his house, cooking, doing stuff with the kids.  Everything I wanted him to do with me.  I never nagged.  I made his life way to easy, and it was not enough or too much.

Charm, well said.

I have often thought that my husband acts like a teenager.  Maybe I am partially to blame for stepping into the mommy role so easily, but somebody had to pay the bills, do the laundry, and all of that other fun stuff.  Charm, I have read other people's stories here and also been surprised by how many of us are or were married to the same guy!  I am tired of feeling like a meal ticket.  I have learned my lesson.  In the future, I will make sure that any man I get involved with can live on his own as an adult.

Gomezz - since you obviously don't know me or my situation, how can you assume that this is the pot calling the kettle black or that I'm a nag.  Hell I work 80-100 hours a week, when the hell do I have time to nag, in my sleep?

And yes, I have called on him to get things off of a top shelf, or open a jar, but I also learned how to do them myself also, during his frequent lazy spells and daily naps for hours a day... it's call a step stool and a jar opener... and so I don't need HIM or anyone else to do anything for me!  It's not about everything.. it's about them growing up and being a 50/50 equal partner, not looking for someone to parent them when they are expected to be an independent adult.

Gomezz, tsk, tsk......just a simple question.....I am assuming you WERE the man child....lol

I was his mommy.  My own fault for babying him and trying to "make it better in his world".....

The question I have is this who is it calling the kettle black here. Do you call on your man when you can't do somthing. Does the word nag come into mind.

In my 1st. marriage yes, but this one no, he lived on his own for 9 years before we met, so he took care of everything himself, and is now doing so again and quite well. When he went OTR driving I took everything over due to his being absent so much, he called me controlling, LOL!