How many of you can't believe you are getting divorced?

never thought so either.I loved him with all my heart and soul.I gave him sixteen years of my life.He told me he was no longer in love with me anymore.He filed for divorce only six weeks ago.I cant believe he left me for a woman hes known less than a year.

well, first off i got married for the wrong reasons. i never loved my husband. i put him through school for 5 years and then never said thankyou. then i had my 3 wonderful children. even though i stayed married for 14 years i still never thought i was going to divorce . i got married in the eyes of god and to me that was forever. look at me now. divorced with my 3 kids.

i know we stayed together mostly for the kids and bills, but there were years that were good, what i can't believe is how this all came to a head, him having an affair with his niece?  him giving up his kids and grandbabies?  yes i can believe i'm finally getting a divorce, we just waited to long to make it happen!

I have been in denial that this is happening to me for the last 8 months.  Still in shock, but see a little bit of reality.

i never thought this would happen to me either. we framed a decorative copy of our marriage license and hung it in the living room along with the kids pictures. that way we could keep our commitment in front of us every day and do what we needed to make it work. i thought he loved me enough to work through this affair of his but instead he fell out of love with me after almost 10 years and fell in love with her after 6 weeks. this new life is so very hard.

I can believe it, but I'm still in shock most days.  Even when he has things handed to him, he still doesn't put fourth the effort.  Just shows me that he is still self absorbed and selfish.  Anything that I find reasonable or what I need is not important if it doesn't fall into his plans. 

So no, I'm not surprised we are divorcing, but never wanted to be.

I never thought my marriage  would last as long as it did.  I knew I was doing the wrong thing from the begininng, but I had a child with him, so I thought I should get married.  MORON!!!!  4 months after, I got pregnant with spontaneous quadruplets.  One of the first things I thought of when I found out there were 4 babies in my body at once was ...now I am stuck in this marriage.  I love my children, no regrets there, but it has been the worst emotional ride of my life.  I have never been so unhappy for so long.....anyway.....

here I am...not being stuck.  Let's see how I do.

Never thought I would be in this He**

I never thought we would get divorced.  My job was to take care of the kids and he was the one bring in the paycheck.  When I finally got a job (kids were in school) he dumbed me.  Come to find out he was cheating on me for the past 2 months.  It is funny though how it took him 5 years to ask me to marry him and only 2 months to ask me to leave with the children.  He is a joke.  I didn't know what hate was until now.  He always said it was the worst part of his childhood when his dad cheated on his mom and they got divorced.  Can I just say like father, like son.  Why would you pass on the worst part of your childhood onto your own small children?

I never thought I would be getting divorced.  I wasn't happy, but was in it for the long haul.  Sometimes I was in love with him, sometimes I wasn't....but I always loved him. 

I thought I would grow old with him and actually talked to my friends about what would happen with us when our last child left for school (in 3 years).

I always imagined us old, with our children and grandchildren coming to stay for holidays and the two of us traveling......

I can't even imagine living with him one more minute, now!

When we married we had both been married once before. We were both comitted to this marriage and made the statement this was it . There wouldn't be a third. Well, he is on his third marriage and I'm finding I meant what I said. I'm not interested in a third marriage.

We had the discussion about the topic of divorce many times, and agreed that for us, it wasn't an option.  Surprise!  It's soon to be a reality.  I don't like how it came about, but I'm OK with where I am now.

I never thought he would cheat and that I would be getting a divorce.  I am still in shock however I have accepted we are over and that I need to be done.  I honestly thought he was man enough to come to me, his forever love, and talk to me about his feelings and we could work through them with counseling and dedication.  But instead he decided to try to have his cake and eat it too.  What a giant piece of garbage he turned out to be! I just pray everyday he doesn't forget about our children.  They still love and adore him.  But he keeps making excuses why he can't see them, he is instead with his whore.

I thought we would raise the children together. He knew what I had gone thru my first marriage.   I was totally committed.  Yes, I have heard it takes 2 to work at a marriage and I am upset he decided to bow out......coward....

I never thought this would happen. We discussed what we wanted out of marriage and then worked towards that. I never thought in a million years she would cheat.

We talked about it before the lovely party.  Had known people that had gotten divorced.  She was divorced.  It was my first marriage and what I said would be my last.  So I was only half right.