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Separate Holidays or Not?

Hello,

So since the hubby says he doesn't know if he wants to work on the marriage or not I feel that spending the holidays with each others families will be quite stressful. I'm considering having each of us take our kids to our sparate family holiday gatherings, but I want to do what's best for the kids without having Mommy have a nervous breakdown.

by MommaT 11 Posts
Posted on 11/21/2008 2:00 PM

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Spend the holidays as we have every other year
Each of us take the kids to our own family happenings
Tell the extended families what's happening, but still attend all functions all together
Attend only the "shorter" activities and either skip "longer" ones or go separate ways with the kids.
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Since you havent decided what you are going to do about your marriage, I would spend the holidays together. If you are still living in a house as a family, this may just be a rough patch you too are going thru. You guys need to talk. Holidays are for kids anyway. Why ruin there's? If it ends in divorce, you can have seperate holidays next year. Give the kids one last Christmas to remember and try not to be ugly with each other.

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by Lori-Woodall 923 Posts
Posted on 11/22/2008 12:27 AM

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I agree with Paula. My STBX has chosen not to be here for Thanksgiving because my parents will be here and she doesn't want to have the kids miss out on that.

Christmas is going to be a little harder because both sets of grandparents will be here and our families are like the Hatfield and McCoys right now. Her parents won't even step foot in my house at this point.

by EricD 133 Posts
Posted on 11/21/2008 5:26 PM

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"...sanity..." - The children will benefit greatly from each of you having the ability to take them separately to the family functions so that any of the potential drama does not flow over into the areas of the respectively families; and, at this stage, it will help set a subtle tone for the next holiday... Just a thought... And, of course, wish you well...

by bp 1239 Posts
Posted on 11/21/2008 3:17 PM

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well, what do you think would be best for the kids (and for your sanity)?

my vote is to do whatever makes it easier and most comfortable for you.

by paula1 12662 Posts
Posted on 11/21/2008 3:13 PM

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