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Is Porn Adultery?

In a great article in The Atlantic this month, Ross Douthat asks the question "Is Porn Adultery?"  
A few quotes from the article:
One perspective, broadly construed, treats porn as a harmless habit, near-universal among men, and at worst a little silly. 

A second perspective treats porn as a kind of gateway drug—a vice that paves the way for more-serious betrayals. A 2004 study found that married individuals who cheated on their spouses were three times as likely to have used Internet pornography as married people who hadn’t committed adultery. 

It is everywhere (for men, anyway):  A survey of American college students last year found that 70 percent of the women in the sample never looked at pornography, compared with just 14 percent of their male peers; almost half of the men surveyed looked at porn at least once a week, versus just 3 percent of the women.
What do you think?
POLL QUESTION:  IS PORN ADULTERY?
 


by jackson   693 Posts
Posted on 9/16/2008 8:30 AM

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Meteor..
  Ok my opinion my be just a tad tainted since i have begun to learn that pornography just in itself can be addicting. My husband watched porn and i didnt have a prob with it...but then he started doing it behind my back and buying and watching it and i never knew a thing. what i didnt understand is if i didnt have a problem with it...why hide it? i have also learned from other women in my situation have husbands who are just plain out addicted to porn. Sexuality in the world is a messed up place these days...why do we have porn that says barely legal...and yes the girl may be a hair over 18 but she is flat chested and dressed to look like a minor. Is this really what we want men to look at? as a society i dont understand why this is allowed? I know there isnt anything that will ever change this but it still bothers me that it is out there. if i had any advice....i would say "trust your instincts"....
by monica1970   20 Posts
Posted on 11/22/2008 11:15 AM
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My husband watches porn and I do not consider it cheating.  It does creep me out, though.  He was honest about it from the beginning and I always said that I was O.K. with it, but I'm not.  I think it started to bother me because I got the cable bill and saw that he was getting pay-per-view porn about once a week(usually right after I left for work, thank you cable company for listing the exact time!) and we were not having sex that often.  And yes, I did try candles and sexy lingerie, before anyone suggests it.  Pornography just seemed like one more thing that was creating distance between us.  He likes to live in his fantasy world, between the pornography and the video games and watching television for hours every day.  When the fantasy world starts to look better than reality, well, there's a problem. 
The whole question of what is cheating haunts me.  I used to think that it had to involve sex or physical contact.  Then I heard someone say that if you act in a way that you would not act if your partner was around, then it's cheating.  That one really got me thinking.  Wait a minute.  Then a whole lot of things are cheating.  So smiling at a cute security guard or a sexy waitress is cheating?  Wow.  I am still not sure about that one, but the question is interesting.
by meteor   249 Posts
Posted on 10/12/2008 12:30 AM
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by bootycall   27 Posts
Posted on 10/12/2008 12:11 AM