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Asking for the Ring Back : Family heirloom

SO we all think out wedding rings are important and significant, but what if they really are important to the husband...Can I ask for the wedding ring back? I can't say it's a heirloom per say just yet, maybe it is...It was given to me by my dying mother on the pretense that I am going to marry my now current/divorcing wife. So it completely means a lot to me. It was her wedding ring from a marriage that lasted more than 32 years before she died of cancer. My dad is still close to us and mentioned before he gave it to me that if we ever divorced, he would want it back, but I NEVER thought we would divorce and probably failed to mention that part to my wife. She knows the story of the ring and how important it is to me. But she hasn't even been wearing it for 3 weeks while she is deciding what to do (but most likely heading for divorce.) What do ya think?

by nomoney 14 Posts
Posted on 9/7/2008 10:34 PM

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I think that you need to tell her the sentimental value of the ring and ask for it back.

She may just understand that. Give her a little credit.

Just because you two are at odds, does not mean she still has some heart.

by dyben 614 Posts
Posted on 9/15/2008 7:19 AM

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thanks for all the support. She knows how much the engagement ring means to me, and was intending to give it back to me. I said I prefer it if she was wearing it, but it doesn't look like that is going to happen. But I will be getting it back. Hope this helps anyone else...thanks for responding.

by nomoney 14 Posts
Posted on 9/9/2008 10:19 PM

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To me it doesn't matter.... it was your mothers.

by bleedinglovepain 760 Posts
Posted on 9/8/2008 8:03 PM

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Did I mention that this is the Engagement Diamond Ring... Not just the Wedding Band!? I hope that doesn't change anyone's answers. The diamond is on the small side also, its no 'huge shiney rock', but it's a great stone.

by nomoney 14 Posts
Posted on 9/8/2008 8:02 PM

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She SHOULD be willing to give it back but may not. It holds sentimental value to you. If you had purchased it for her that may be different.
I hope she gives it back without a fight!

by mtnvly 3539 Posts
Posted on 9/8/2008 5:43 AM

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She should be giving it back without you asking, but if she doesn't you should ask for it.

by asim 775 Posts
Posted on 9/7/2008 11:55 PM

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I would ask for it back very nicely...if she gives you heck about it tell her you will replace it with a divorce ring...lol..(those are in style now, ya know?)....but seriously, I would def. ask for it back....she should be GIVING IT YOU w/o you saying a word!

by SKelly 265 Posts
Posted on 9/7/2008 10:57 PM

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If it wasn't from your mom I'd say it's a promise to marry and since she did marry you it's legally hers. However, since it was your mother's ring she should give it back. I say ask for it back.

by NiceName 31 Posts
Posted on 9/7/2008 10:41 PM

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Failed to mention how important: my mother never made it to our wedding. We had a long engagement because it never felt right to have a joyous event without her. During our 'first dance' at the wedding, I sobbed like a little baby cuz I missed her so much. The theme of the wedding revolved around 'Angels' because they played a huge role in my mothers life, and knew she was 'with us.' Plus we never got engaged before cuz I was saving for a ring, but not doing a very good job at it. My mom really liked my wife and wanted us to be happy together. Just breaks your heart doesn't it?!

by nomoney 14 Posts
Posted on 9/7/2008 10:40 PM

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yes you should ask for it!!!!!.....I would be pissed if she didn't. Have you brought it up to her?

by bleedinglovepain 760 Posts
Posted on 9/7/2008 10:38 PM

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