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intimacy issue while going through seperation

Seperated now for 3 months.  Not actively trying to "work on it".  ( I would like to but he refuses ).  Marriage has been going down hill for a couple of years.  I have had a crush on someone else as soon as the hubby said the magic words "I'm not IN LOVE with you anymore".  Nothing serious, just office style flirting- nothing more!  Now we have confided in each other many of our thoughts and dreams.  He is also friends with the STBX.  So nothing has ever gone past just smiling and talking.  Now that it's obvious that the STBX does not want to work on things or come home, the crush has been my emotional shoulder to cry on.  Come to find out he has also had a crush on me, but due to the marriage, neither one of us ever stepped over the line.   But now things have changed, and I have openly admitted to him my feelings and darkest desires.  Should I get intimate with him, or stay faithful to my marriage that has been over for a long time now?   


by Tuff   36 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 4:46 PM

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Nah, it's not like riding a bike.  Still good exercise, but it doesn't give you a wedgie.
by 2much42long   1229 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 10:17 PM
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Rich so have I. But we both know a lot about the subject. It's like riding a bike. I think. Isn't it?Sorry, I'm in a silly mood tonight.
by trisha9054   2789 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 7:25 PM
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Tuff, I know how difficult it is to let go, but if you are still trying to make it work or would like to and are still being intimate with your husband( read your answer to another post)  than this just complicates things. Do's this new friend know your still intimate with your husband?  

You should really take a break from them and focus on YOU and try to heal from all of the confusion and pain of the break up of your marriage and separation. Good Luck to you.
by asim   773 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 6:34 PM
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I agree. wait until the divorce is final. It isn't fair the this new guy and it could complicate issues with your divorce.

Then again, why listen to me. I've gone without intamacy for over a decade. What do I know about the subject?
by RichBrewer   214 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 6:14 PM
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You really don't need to bring someone else into your life right now. One or both of you are going to be hurt. You need to wait until your divorce is final and you've been on your own for a while.
This is the time to work on yourself and build your self esteem and realize you can make it on your own.  If he has a crush on you he will wait until you are ready. If not; did you really need him?
by trisha9054   2789 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 5:25 PM
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