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Do I tell him i filed?

I am filing for divorce this week. When me and my husband split up I told him that we would give it a year and see how we feel if we still didn't have the feelings then we would divorce. Well it's only been 4 months since we split. He has a live in girlfriend i have a long distance boyfriend. He hasn't given me agreed upon monies for child support. He is still in love even though he has a girlfriend he text me everyday talking to me like i'm his best friend. I'm nervous cuz i don't know if i should tell him i'm filing for divorce. Should i tell him or just let him get served. He hasn't been the nicest person since all this he plays alot of head games with me.

by wrestlemeoff 6 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 3:08 PM

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Tell him, but be sure you have the child to be on the safe side, but I doubt there will be any resistance. This will also help with the legality issues of support, if he isn't doing as he agreed now, chances are he won't after, andmore than likely will play with the amounts as he sees fit "what he can and can not afford from week to week" etc. Learn from my mistake, have it garnished so it eliminates arguments. Also be sure any medical compinsation for co-pays are set in stone because if there is ever an issue with regular doctor visits or medications, hospitilizations, you need it in black and white what he is suppose to do.

Best wiahes to you both.

by Motherof2girls 34 Posts
Posted on 4/16/2009 6:30 PM

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You might be surprised at his response. I recently sat down with my stbe and told him I had the papers and was thinking that we need to file soon (we have been sep. for 7 months). He said he had papers too and was ready. We had a very civil and mutually understanding conversation that went very well.

by spark 2 Posts
Posted on 3/24/2009 12:11 PM

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I would always recommend taking the high road, you should tell him.

by mominny 219 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 4:32 PM

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You should tell him. Why cause problems while things are civil?? If you're afraid he'll talk you our of it, then tell him RIGHT after you file. There's no sense in making him angry or surprising him... Keep communication open.

by 5babemom 366 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2008 3:45 PM

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