After a divorce has been filed, and looks to be relatively certain to become finalized, is it OK to maintain a sexual relationship with your STBX? I don't want to interject my reasoning for thinking in either selection as of yet - looking for un-coersed input.Mike
2much42long,Yes - we have, and always have had AWESOME chemistry.
I don't feel that the marriage is bad enough, or fargone enough to throw away - I honestly don't. However, there are 2 sides to every coin... She doesn't feel it is bad enough that she doesn't want to have sex with me anymore, yet she apparently feels it's bad enough to divorce... I don't get it...
7-year anniversary today, conciliation hearing tomorrow. Talk about a totally shitty start to an otherwise perfect week LOL!!!
when did I mention "mommy or daddy" issues?
deep rooted emotional issues was a really B R O A D term...and it includes your reasons for drinking...
bottom line - my opinion is that sex with an stbx is a very bad idea - I've seen it turn divorces that really should happen into long draw out emotional roller coasters - even in teen age early 20's non married people who do the "casual sex" friend with benefit thing life to regret it in most cases...feelings ALWAYS get involved at some level. Geez - what did I do so wrong for you to be so mean to me? It's just an opinion - you opened it up for discussion....now, since you seem to have so much incredible contempt for me all I can say is..."if it makes you feel better, you wanna box?"
If you love her you won't use her just for "getting something" - it's wrong, and if the roles are reversed, then it is even more important that you don't compromise your values.
Mike, alcoholics become alcholics due to deep emotional issues - these are things you have to work on and adding one more emotionally confusing situation to all of the others - is just adding one more lane to the highway towards disaster.
be smart about this
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