Is he cheating?

Thanks for all the post. I have snooped and I don't seem to get any where with that. So for now i am just watching. I have asked him if he has been with anyone other than me and he always denies it and turns the question around to me.

I made a stupid mistake last week I know it was jealousy. My husband and I were out last week with a few friends and he kept on talking about this new intern at the office and how beautiful she was. In front of everyone I took his chin in my hand and turned it towards me and said,( there are no other beautiful women.) Everyone laughed. Of course I know there are beautiful women out there. But, as far as our marriage is concerned he shouldn't be talking about other women as beautiful. It hurt me that he would talk like that infront of our friends. I feel bad about my actions because of how my friends may have felt being there in the center of this. I think I reacted like that because he seldom tells me that I am pretty or that I look nice. I know that I do because my friends tell me that I am pretty. I just would like to hear it from him.

oh my god... I also wondered the same thing and I was Right I never really snooped around but, I noticed some changes in him; he was getting out of work late, he would take good care of his cell phone (carry it with him everywhere) or sometimes just turn it off completely; so, if you feel that he is cheating on you then he might be.  so, to be honest with you talk to him you deserve to know the truth because all this wondering around will "stress" you out. I know it's hard to even think about it but, let me tell you there is a relief when you do know what you always thought was right even tho it hurts.  So, don't wait like I did I always wondered and wondered and wondered the same thing all the time I just never did anything about it until my husband was cought that's when I said to myself " I knew It" I just wish I would of done something about it sooner...

I am really sad to read your article, but if you think he is cheating than he probably is.  I do think it is a sixth sense that we have.  I know I had it and I was right.  My ex cheated on me and even though the signs were there I guess in my heart I did not want to believe it.  Now that I look back everything fits into place.....he was hiding his cell phone (taking it into the bathroom and all), he was going out more to happy hours with work people, he was on line all night after the kids went to bed, he was extremely distant from me, etc.  If you think he is cheating than do something about it.  I started to snope and even thought that is not my nature (never did that before in our marriage of 5 years), but I am so glad I did for I answered the question for myself instead of having to ask and being lied too.  Good luck and I hope and pray that your feelings are not correct about his actions.  I wish you only good things.  If it turns out he is cheating please know that you will be okay!!!

Thanks, BlueB, I have talked with him and he is good at makeing me feel like I am stupid for asking the questions. We have been married for 29 years and we have been to many marriage counselors and he always makes it look like I am the one with the problem.

So, if he is cheating, I want to know. I am tired of all the snooping and wondering.

if you think he's cheating, he probably is.

i'm sorry.

there are a ton of articles on this site about this. 

Personally, if he came home smelling like sex, I'd say that's your sure-fire way of telling if he cheated on you.  But, if you're seeking ironclad proof, I'd say that you need to hire a private investigator.

Regardless if he's cheating or you just think he's cheating, you need to start talking with him about the marriage and see if you two need counseling.  You might.

I hope that helps.  Good luck!