Should he quit his job...

My husband had an affair with a coworker of his and at that time they were both working 2nd shift.  So, upto the day I found out he moved to 3rd shift which was still hard for me because he would still go in and she would still be there.  Now, his moved on to 1st shift which again, he is still there when she goes in to work believe me when I look at the time and I see its almost time for the "OW" to go in to work I freak out I start feeling mad, hurt in other words all those feelings come back the "What if's" What if his talking to her? What if she is talking to hm? I mean you name it I think about it.  Well, I don't mind him being on 1st shift because when he does get off work he is here with us and that is something I always wanted.  But, he found out that one of the guys in 2nd shift might leave so Yep you guessed it he might have to move back to 2nd and the idea is killing me that's how this affair got started.  He tells me he is stressed and scared that if he moves bck to 2nd that is going to destroy our marriage for sure and knows that it will hurt me all over again.  He tells me the reason he hasn't quit is because we have a house paymnt, credit cards, etc... and of course at this point in time it's getting hard to find a job.  I don't know how I would react if he moves bck to 2nd shift some part of me understands why he hasn't quit and the other half is upset at the fact that we are in this situation in other words he brought this on his own and now because of his actions I seem to pay the price for it...     

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