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I know that this question has been asked before, but I need an opinion. Read my story and then know that my wife says that she will never forgive me. I have also asked her if I change or can "fix" what is wrong, is there a chance for us. She says she can't tell me that. I'm tired of living day by day with a person who doesn't love me. We sleep in the same bed, but on opposite sides. She goes to bed before I do and is usually asleep when I come to bed. I stay downstairs to avoid the inevitable arguments. She blew up at me the other day for not having dinner ready when she got home from work. It has been over 4 years since I have touched a woman let alone kissed a woman. Should I file? Or should I try to work things out?
I'm not so sure you are in a battle anymore - more like a stalemate...if you were walking and hit a wall - would you contine to walk into it hoping there was someone on the other side chipping away at the brick so you can eventually get through - or would you make a turn and find a door - or another path around?I think you need to go back to marriage counseling - you were too embarassed to open up the first time - but the ugly has to come out before the healing can begin - if it even can at this point, but you owe it to your family to try. what is worse is your daughter is involved - and she needs therapy too. You need to start going to bed at the same time. The computer is not your friend, it is your enemy at this point. You need to start talking to your wife, You need to start TOUCHING your wife, even if it is a hand on the shoulder. You need to start reaching out to her in subtle ways.
If you haven't worked since you lost your job, then you are the home maker and you need to be responsible - she probably blew up at you thinking you were on the computer instead of taking care of things you should be. You should also be looking for work if you aren't yet.
I'm making a broad assumption here but it would help if you got off your ass. =)
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