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My advice to you is to concentrate on you and your daughter. Don't worry about the stretch marks and meeting someone else. That will come in time after you figure out what is best for your child and then yourself. Think only of your daughter and what you need to do to give her the right life. If you think the marriage is over and there is no love in it to make it work then move on and be a good mother for your daughter.

the thing with us is that we have been trying for almost 4 years now to make this work, i've tried being his mom with his addition and finally said enough i cant any more. We finally agreed that this was the last time that we would go threw this and i put my hear and soul into making it work only to become so happy and nieve that i didn't know he was still using. So i said i was done, he wants to really try this time and i don't think i can, i'm so tired of getting happy trusting him and then my heart getting broken. We started counseling and its making things worse because the more we go the more i feel that it is over, each time i come away thinking this isn't healthy and isn't going to get better we are better just parting as friends and letting this go. But then reality sets in and i'm like i cant afford this house by my self )which i do daycare out of so i need it) what if i'm sick? ill have no health insurance! My new business opens in 27 days and now i am going to have to do daycare and this new business just to keep this house and my life. Who's going to fix things when they break? Is anyone going to want a single mom that has stretch marks? is anyone going to really love my daughter as their own? and then i stop and say to myself.... how horrible is it that none of those reasons are i love my husband and want this to work. So even though i know its over there is something holding me back. I cant seem to figure out if its fear of being alone or that maybe somewhere deep inside i want it to work?

I know that he wants to make it work this time but what i dont understand is that... this is what we said the last 3 times and nothing was different. Im not willing to put my heart and my daughter threw that again and i feel like he just wants to put it more on me by saying i dont want to try anymore rather then having to admit that he doesnt want to get help with his addicition.

Wow, can we get your husband and my wife together?  They sound like the same person, the way they just seem to "forget" that discussion you have and act like it never happened.  My wife has been doing that for 9 years.  Fortunately it's not a weekly thing anymore.

Since I haven't divorced yet, I can't tell you much about how to keep your home.  But I can tell you that I wish I had divorced at 24, and not waited until now.  Don't wait too long.  Good luck.

If you really want a divorce you can do it at 24. I started my divorce at 59. Like you I had my own business at 24. I have kept kids on a limited basis. Keeping someone else's child is a huge responsibility. You have shown you have the strength to do whatever you want. You just need to trust in yourself.

You won't cause him to be nasty. That is his choice. You can't  be responsible for the choices he makes. You do need to go to an atty. and see what your rights are. Educate yourself on the process. It won't be so scary and you will understand the process. Good luck

He obviously is ignoring this, hoping it will just go away.  If he won't talk to you, try writing him a letter maybe?  Would he respond to that?  It's often easier to say things in writing than in conversation.  If you have tried talking, and he won't, that's an option. You do NOT want to leave that house if you're planning on starting a business in it, or you'll lose rights to live there.  So if you file, you need to file for the ability to live in the home, and state the reasons why.  But, be aware that if you live in a community property state, he has half rights to the value of the home, so you may need to buy him out, or he can force a sale.  I would consult an attorney.  Initial consultations are usually free, and they can tell you what to expect.  Good luck

Sounds like to me that you have thrown in the towel and he is not willing to accept it.  You are young.  I am 40 and going through this I never thought I would be a single mom either.  It is very scary.  Being a single young mom and a business owner is a huge accomplishment already.  Do not leave the house you need it to run your business.

How hard are you willing to work at it.  Is it truly over?  If it is file yourself and do not leave it up to him.

24, common you're in your prime. Try this at 40, 50, 60. You don't trust me!
Well by your other post  I'm assuming  he may have cheated? Let me know if I'm wrong.
How serious is he about trying? How serious are you? If you are both willing to work, truly work to repair and get help if need be. I say, give it a shot. Do you still love him? doe's he love you? There a so many issues at stake and things to consider. I say follow your heart. Is he willing to leave? I'm sure the fact that you run your child care business out of your home is a big plus as far as who remains in the house.
Your young. I did it at your age with two little ones.  You can do it . Good luck to you!