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Feel like I am going crazy

It's been almost 4 months since I found out about my husband's affair and it seems that everyday I think about him and her.  I wake up, sleep just thinking about it.  I just want to wake up and have this thoughts put behind me and move on with my life.  Last night I had the weirdest dream I just remember talking to someone and that someone was going to show me who the OW was.  So, when I awoke I felt so sad and I guess I still do. I don't want to live my life wondering who this OW is call me crazy but, I really want to know who this person is I am so angry at the fact that she wanted to ruin my family.  I know she doesn't have fault I blame both of for what I am going thru.  I blame my husband for being weak and giving into temptation and realizing that all he had to was "communicate" with me what was going on.  I don't know sometimes I feel like just giving up and moving on but, when I do I start thinking about my husband and how much I do care and Love him.  But, at the same time I feel like I am going crazy and feel like I can't move on with or without him.  I also feel that I haven't or don't pay as much attention to my kids, work, and myself.  I don't know maybe it's just me.  So to anyone that has or is going thru this please give me some advice on what I should do and how you are or have moved on.  I also have to face the fact that even if I have to let him go for me to become happy and find myself then I will.   


by achiever479   105 Posts   read more from user >>
Posted on 6/30/2008 8:20 AM

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I just found out my husband has been cheating on me for over 1 year, he said he was confused but felt he loved her, said he loved me too, but just not enough. I knew what I had to do when he told me that, I had to leave him, I don't want to be with someone who can't love me in the same way I love him and of course I wouldn't stay with someone who was still talking with the other woman every day like he was. I left 3 weeks ago, yes I hurt terribly, I cry all the time, but I have to be strong for my daughter because she is hurting too. If your husband has stopped seeing her, if he loves you totally, and you love him, you must try to work it out, go to counselling, do anything you can to make your marriage strong again,. But of course if he is still seeing her or has real feelings for her, why would you want to put up with that? Anything is better than living with someone and seeing them every day and knowing their heart no longer belongs to you. Don't do that to yourself. You will be fine, stay strong.
by mypalomino   2 Posts
Posted on 7/1/2008 12:21 PM
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It is possible for you to work on your marriage, but you both have to want to.  The third party isn't to blame, something was wrong with your marriage, there was an opening and your husband exploited that gap.  Counselling will help you figure out what that gap is, and how you can permanently close it.  As long as you both are willing and committed, you can work it out.

There are difficult days ahead, but in time the sharpness of the pain and the hurt will subside.  You'll never forget of course, but the pain does become less and less with understanding.
Good luck, keep us posted on your progress
by HurtingDad   22 Posts
Posted on 6/30/2008 8:57 AM
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Paula1:  To my knowledge he is not having the affair I think it's over for sure.  I think my problem is that he is still at his job and of course she is there they don't work together but, the fact that he is still there really bothers me.  Our current situation is we are talking more and trying to work things out it takes time I know but, I just me feeling like this kills me.  We actually had an appointment for couseling but, therapist rescheduled two times already and when he wants to set an appointment it doesn't fit in our schedule.  We both want to go we both know it will be better for us.  I guess I will have to look for another counselor.  I know there's alot of people out there that recover from affairs I want to know how they do it and of course if there still married how they both feel right now and how they dealt with this everyday..
by achiever479   105 Posts
Posted on 6/30/2008 8:38 AM
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these are normal feelings.  is he still having the affair?  do you both want a divorce?  what is the current situation?   i know many people recover from affairs, only you know if your marriage can withstand this.  do you think the two of you could do counseling?
by paula1   3167 Posts
Posted on 6/30/2008 8:27 AM
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