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He's struggling with the household finances, and I'm feeling guilty

I moved out three months ago and now he's feeling the financial pain. The water heater gave out an now he has to replace it and asked if I would help. We have been getting along pretty well and I have shown concern. When we were fighting he wouldn't leave so I left. I told him he can eventually Refi and buy me out but we all know how the housing market is going so that is going to take some time. He also started work and never finished it and turned our home into a junk yard that I couldn't stand to look at anymore. Our credit is shot because we filed for bankruptcy to get a handle on his Child support and welfare dept(his ex collected for 12 years) and they go after the dads for that. (whole other story) Anyway, we got our tax return and he gave me half. he used his to get caught up and I'm saving mine for a rainy day. I feel bad I think I should help. My name is also on the house and I am trying to rebuild my credit and dont know what to do with this whole situation. any advice? Angie

by asim 775 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2008 10:37 PM

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My stbx is a ******jerk.He won't get it through his head what I'm trying to tell him.At first I was feeling sorry for him. Now it's ridicules.

by hulagirl 159 Posts
Posted on 6/20/2008 2:16 AM

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No I didn't he rerouted the piping down the side of the house to the other bad water heater in the laundry room. Thanks for checking in on me . How are you?

by asim 775 Posts
Posted on 6/20/2008 1:21 AM

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Hows it going? did you help with water heater?

by hulagirl 159 Posts
Posted on 6/19/2008 11:41 PM

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I know. Just kinda feeling like I walked out. My five year old was over there and couldn't bathe. I think thats what got me. Your right. Even the therapist i went to see said that It's his fault I'm gone so he should deal with it. I know your not feeling well you problems right now are much bigger than my dumb heater issue but thanks for posting. Hope you feel better.

by asim 775 Posts
Posted on 6/17/2008 1:02 AM

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He's still got us on his insurance and hasn't said anything like taking us off. He also carries my two kid from a previous. He used the money to pay morgage, catch up on bills and he is still paying our sons private school.

by asim 775 Posts
Posted on 6/17/2008 12:52 AM

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I know you want to help him but remember the drugs? Are you sure thats not were his money went. Tell him if he wants his family back to get on his feet and then you can work together. If you let up on that he might not ever get off of them. Can't his family help him if he needs a water heater?Maybe I'll feel better tomorrow to talk more but stay strong you have your child to take care of.

by hulagirl 159 Posts
Posted on 6/17/2008 12:45 AM

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Where did you say his money went?After rereading your post Id try to make him stand on his own because you have the child to consider. What if ya'll get sick? Will he give a hand out?

by hulagirl 159 Posts
Posted on 6/17/2008 12:39 AM

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