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Should I give in a deduct money from what he is to pay me?

I recently sold an item for $600.  This item was mine to do with what I wanted.  My stbx offered to help me buy a new bedroom suite, since the one from our house was to big to fit into my small apartment.  Now he wants to deduct this amount from my monthly support of $1400.00.  When I made a comment about that wasn't the deal, he says that he should have listened to what everybody else has been telling him all along, and that he is done with me once and for all.  I dumb founded, I don't know what else to say.  I've have been most accomodating to him.  He wanted this divorce.  I'm tryint to move on.  Am I wrong in this thought? 


by Borntobefree   6 Posts   read more from user >>
Posted on 6/11/2008 9:06 AM

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if he wants to pay for 'extra' things above and beyond your divorce decree and agreed upon support, that is up to him.  that support is your money not his.  so, he can't offer to use that money to pay for your bedroom. see?  he gives you the money. you do with it what you please.
by paula1   3367 Posts
Posted on 6/11/2008 9:23 AM
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My ex has tried that. If it was my property I would do what I wanted with it and tell him to go pound sand. Doesn't mean he won't try to deduct it out of your monthly money. If the furniture was yours he has no rights to the money. I tried maintaining a friendship with my ex. Not possible. Too soon. Try to find someone else to help you with shopping. It is too easy to fall back into old habits and the ex will try to take advantage.
Be glad he wants nothing else to do with you. I doubt it lasts long.Your instincts are right . He just threw a mini temper tantrum.
by trisha9054   1436 Posts
Posted on 6/11/2008 9:22 AM
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He is not.  He said that since I was to get a suite and the one that was at the house did not fit into my apt that he wanted to help me get one.  I was to pick it out and he said he'd pay for it.  Which so far he has.  Now he is looking for favors, which I didn't know at the time, was going to happen.
by Borntobefree   6 Posts
Posted on 6/11/2008 9:20 AM
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divorce is really difficult.....emotions change on a whim.  why is he bedroom shopping with you?
by paula1   3367 Posts
Posted on 6/11/2008 9:13 AM
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