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Do I trust my lawyer?

I have a son who is not my husband's bio child, but raised him since 9mths. we were only married for 6 months before our marriage, went to hell.  we have been seprated for about year and he ended up telling our oldest that he is not his real father, during the time me and my boys were moving out.  my lawyer states that he is responsible for him finicially and emotionally, so he is going after him for child support....is there such thing as a law about this type of situation?

ps...ever since my husband told our oldest, he has not seen him except in passing or doesn't bother calling him at all. my son is devesated over this and is taking it out on me.

 


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Posted on 6/2/2008 2:53 PM
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I have been with my husband for 10 years, been married for 2 years and still going until all the paperwork and court is finalized.  My oldest son is 11 years old, he found out at the age of 10 when my husband knelt down and told him that he was not his father, looked him straight in my son's eyes and told him that.  That day forever burned in my mind and I am sure my son's as well. Like I said he has been "daddy" since my son was 9 months old.  We do have another child together who is turning 9 and he has contact with him because its "HIS".  My whole in law side of the family have totally disowned my oldest, but my youngest is still part of the family.
by maganann   8 Posts
Posted on 6/3/2008 11:44 AM
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PS....... tell your son, "family isn't always blood! Family is love and being a part of each others lives through good & bad"                    


 I am still waiting for my husband to realize that one. But it is true
by Branny   544 Posts
Posted on 6/2/2008 7:07 PM
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Some states will enforce him being the father, Financialy speaking any way. I have heard of people finding out their kids were not theirs but with them being born into marriage, the law regards them as legaly theirs. He stepped up to the plate knowing your preggers & still played daddy, that was his choice. He took that responsibility willingly. Go for the child support, take care of your children and let your son he did nothing wrong & you love him enough for 100000 people. Maybe some day your ex will stop being a spitefull jackass.
by Branny   544 Posts
Posted on 6/2/2008 7:05 PM
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you don't say how long you were married or how old the child is - but considering the fact he is old enough to be emotionally hurt by everything, it has to have been a few years...with that, comes the "presumptive parent" reason your attorney is going after child support. Your ex took on the role of father, and did so willingly from the child's young age - he does have the right to fight it - or go for custody/visitation - but your attorney is not out of line for trying to get support for him.


I'm a family law attorney
by spaznskitz   2584 Posts
Posted on 6/2/2008 6:15 PM
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