should i just give up on ever getting child support?

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Try to see if you can get some of it back, but don't sink too much additional expense, either emotional or financial, into the process.

That's a lot of money to just kiss off, and it makes me boil to think that someone can just kind of walk away from their obligations, and actually get away with it.

He's probably constantly thinking about the debt, though, and I'll bet he's not nearly as smug about it as I think he is.

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It sounds like the law has been his parent for a long time.  Maybe his problem isn't child support maybe it's something deeper.  How long can the law play parent to someone who was allowed to do whatever he wanted in society.  Go to the District Attorney.  It's obvious he doesn't care if he goes to jail.  Sounds more like he has no respect for himself, no respect for society and has been allowed to act like a sociopath.  He sounds overparented to me.  You know the world owes him a living on this planet.

File with the District Attorney.

There has to be some services out there that can help  you get your money, or at least some of it.  Isn't there something through social services or do I have the wrong organization?

My ex hasn't worked in a year and thus not paid in a year either.  He did let me claim our child for 2007 where I got some income tax money (we alternate years) but that isn't all that much.  I am a softy and have not done anything to date even tho I was out of work for 3 months in 2008 myself.  I am contemplating going to the courthouse where we got the divorce to find out what I can do.  Oh, and did I mention that he is verbally abusive and mean at times as well?  Sometimes I just want to hide and not deal with all of this rather than conflict.  Even though I am proactive it is just so much hassle dealing with him.  He is good about seeing our son so I look at that for consolation. UGH

If your child support was supposed to be paid and going through the state, then can't you contact the state child support division and file papers to have them do something about it? I know that when my ex was not paying, I told him that if he didn't catch up, that I would have no choice in filing papers......and he is self employed too but was making enough to file yearly income taxes. Now, the child support division can find out if he is filing his taxes and take it from him to pay towards what he owes you.  They can also take his drivers license away as well, not sure how that helps with getting money though but you could give it a try. 

How is he surviving without any source of income?

I am actually going to court for child support tomorrow (again)!  My ex is only a little over $7000 behind, but he has already been arrested twice and spent 6 months on house arrest.  I am assuming that he will probably be arrested again tomorrow, since he is unemployed again.  He has done everything in his power to avoid paying any support, including quitting jobs and blaming ME for him not being able to find a better one.  Good luck, but  as Jimmy V. once said, "Don't give up.  Don't ever give up."

never give up.

USE THE WEB TO TRACK DOWN THE LAWS AND SEE IF YOU CAN TALK TO A LAWYER ON THIS WITH A FREE CONSULTATION. I'VE LEARN A LOT THIS WAY AND YOU MIGHT BE ABLE TO USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE. THERE'S GOTTA BE A WAY TO MAKE HIM PAY YOU, SO DON'T GIVE UP. YOUR IN THE RIGHT.