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6/6/2008 12:39:25 PM
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Should I help her move????

My soon to be ex-wife has asked me to help her move out of our house this weekend (I'm staying), For some background, we have been struggling with trying to merge two families for quite sometime, it hasnt worked, shes never been able to accept my two daughters as a full part of the family even though we've been together for 15 years and my kids have been here for 13. We finally agreed to split but I'm still having a very emotional struggle with us splitting, part of me says it's a mistake and the thought of helping her go out the door has me very torn.  
by remed8tr   4 Posts
Posted on 5/30/2008 12:39 PM
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After much mental debate I said I was sorry but couldn't help her, just to many issue's. She is angry about loosing the help but understands my position
by remed8tr   4 Posts
Posted on 5/31/2008 2:45 PM
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If you don't won't the divorce, tell her and seek Godly Council.

God Bless!
by cookielove   25 Posts
Posted on 5/30/2008 3:34 PM
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My ex was working in Texas. I had to be here for the moving company to pick his things up. At least that way I could send all his stuff to Texas. He wasn't happy with what I sent. He said I sent too many of his things. I tried my best to remove his presence from the house. I still had to pack some of his items and UPS them to him before the scheduled moving day. It wasn't that hard for me because I was angry enough to get thru it. There are still things here that are his. I have put them in a room I don't enter often. There is a clause in my divorce decree that he can come back when the property is sold and pick up any personal items he has left here.
by trisha9054   2171 Posts
Posted on 5/30/2008 2:46 PM
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If you have decided who gets what and if so than maybe it would be best to leave. It is very heart breaking to see them packing up and leaving. Even when you feel it is the right thing to do. When I asked my husband to leave I felt anger and thought it was the best (I still do) but it tore me up to watch him take his things out of the house.         Good luck.
by hulagirl   159 Posts
Posted on 5/30/2008 2:27 PM
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take some control.  If you are concerned about the split and what will be leaving the house, then stay.  If you do not care about what is leaving then leave.  No one says you have to help.  I sat on the couch while he moved our stuff out, Not a blink on an eye.  Things were decided prior to the move.  She is moving on and no one says that you have to help her do that.  Look after your self first right now.  Do what you think is right for you.
by dyben   563 Posts
Posted on 5/30/2008 2:11 PM
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If you two have worked out who is getting what, I'd recommend that you leave during the move and your soon-to-be-ex hire a moving company.  I sold my home and moved in with my soon to be ex when we married.  I had most of the furniture.  We purchased a few new things together, but not many.  When he asked me and my son to move out 2 months ago (we struggled from the beginning of our 16 month marriage) we said it would be a trial separation.  A couple of days later he told me that he wanted all my stuff out of his house.  I scheduled a moving company, informed him of the date, he went to work and when he returned the move was complete.
by BennieJ   2 Posts
Posted on 5/30/2008 1:58 PM
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