Yes, my husband is stalling for certain because then he doesn't have to pay child support, or alimony or another rent.  He has a comfortable house with food in the cupboard and he does not lift a finger to help!  So, you are both right, he is stalling.  But now that I have filed the law suite there is an end in sight.  He really does not want to go to court because of the money it will cost and I think he believes we will have less control there than at mediation and come out worse.  So now we are headed back to mediation for the second time on June 11th and I am hoping to get this thing done and over.  It has gone on so long that it is slowly distroying me and the kids are sufferring too.
   Thanks to you all for listening and responding to my cry for help.  I am trying to be strong but honestly sometimes it feels like there is no way out.  I will feel more empowered when I can get a steady job.  I have my own business but it does not bring in enough money so I have my resume done and am actively looking for a job that I can do and still be there for my 3 kids.
     Any encouraging words are welcome :)

Vicki is right - whats he stalling for? A person I know (not well!) told me he was stalling on purpose as he was trying to "wear his stbx down"......  He thought at some point she would just take anything money-wise so she could move on with her life. 

She was a tough girl though,and she saw what he was doing and just held out til he was ready.... (he got a little honey who wanted to get married - suddenly it became super important that he and his first wife be divorced!)

i think you need to mediate a time line here of when this will end.  it's costing both of you money and time to keep mediating over and over.  is he doing this to stall because he doesn't want a divorce?