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We haven't tried counseling, he doesn't believe in it since his ex.  Do I want to stay married yes and no. Yes because I do love him and we have kids together. No because I'm tired of being accused of multiple things when I'm not doing anything wrong that I know of.

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His ex-wife cheated on him, she was military also. When we first got married life was great.  When I deployed for the first time every two weeks he was accusing me of sleeping around. We would work it out and then again he would start accusing me of sleeping around.  That was about 5 1/2 yrs ago. Since then if I have a male coworker call or me call them and talk about work or just to see how they are doing I get accused of doing something with them. More recently he realized I have a credit card, that I pay with my pay check, but since we had a joint account I was spending his money when I would pay the bills. Recently I paid my car off, so I put some of the "car payment" money in my seperate account to pay off debt and/or just save. So now he thinks I saving money to leave him.  I understand the feeling of being away and not being able to control your life or family, but to constantly belittle your partner just isn't fair.  And as you see this has been going on for awhile. almost 6  years, we've only been married for 7. And one of those years we were stationed on opposite sides of the country. So really living together has only been 6yrs.

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i think we need more information here about this relationship.  why doesn't he trust you?  have you tried counseling?  do you want to stay married?

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Trust is a key component to any relationship.  Without it, life can be hell.  That said, I would recommend you wait until your husband gets home and have a sit down with him.  I saw your other post saying he was in the Military.  I'm taking it he's stationed over seas?  When he gets home, Explain your feelings and how his lack of trust is making things very hard on you.

For now I would try to be sympathetic. Trust is about control.  While he's away he probably feeling like he has no control over his personal life.  When he gets home is a better time to deal with this. 

I pray for the best for both of you, and that he returns safely.

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