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Recently my hubby said he wants a divorce, he said he has filed the paper work. But he hasn't moved out, he has suggested that I find a place with the kids and that he would help me. His mother lives with us and he said that I should move to a place with out her. We are only renting our house so I don't have to worry about that, he said that he is giving me everything in the house and custoday of the kids. I am hoping that we can work things out but I am not sure if I should move out to at least get a place that his mom is not in.

by sirrapsara read more from user >>
Posted on 5/7/2008 4:02 PM

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I have thought of that too, I think he just wants his mom to cover for him and his responsibilities. But I would rather be in a place were she isn't only so I can be myself with out thinking that she will run back and tell him all kinds of stuff. As it is I am sure she tell him things that are not true.

by sirrapsara 9 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2008 5:03 PM

Curious - why would you want to move someplace with his mother? Sounds like he wants to revert to his childhood. No offense, but that's my kneejerk reaction.

Dealing with something similar. My husband and I are having serious problems. I work; he doesn't. We have a mortgage that I can afford no problem so if anyone should leave, he should. When he says he has no place to go, my response is, go to your mother's - she's the one you wanted me to replace.

by SoDarnConfused 4 Posts
Posted on 5/14/2008 11:00 AM

well, you can't move out of state without his permission. He has a right to be a parent to his kids - even if he is giving you primary custody. So that really isn't an option at this point.

Ask him if he will go to marriage counseling - if he will, then you stay and see if you can work things out - if he refuses, then your marriage is over and you probably should start looking for somewhere new.

by spaznskitz 1217 Posts
Posted on 5/10/2008 1:52 AM

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